Good friend's asshole DH left two days ago ..what's the most useful thing I can do as a friend?

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As I'm sure lots of you have experience of this, and I don't, I really wondered how a friend can be a real friend at a time like this. Things have been dodgy between them for quite a while, and she sounds more relieved than anything else because she won't have to deal with his strops and moods any more. I haven't said a word against him and don't intend to, but can see how unhappy he has been making her. At this stage she says that she doesn't want him back, as the house is much calmer without him.
I'm seeing her tomorrow, what tips have you got?

any suggestions?

All you can do is listen and offer support, let her know she has got a friend she can count on, someone she can talk to who won't make judgements. Maybe if she wants to go out, cinema, that sort of thing, you could go out as friends (if you don't already, that is...)

Other than that its too soon to be doing much else, until you see how it all pans out, I would say.

Just give her your support. If she is not devistated then she made not need as much practical help - but maybe just be there for her.

How about helping to 'sort his stuff out'.

Just ask her what she wants you to do.

have been through this with my best friend, jsut listen. listen, listen, listen,offer tissues, tea,meals and practical help. don;t go mad slagging off the ex,just in case.. wait until the dust settles

Listen, listen, listen. Even when she repeats herself for the nine billionth time, just be there. And don't try to give her any 'look to the future' crap. It never went down well with me at that time in my life! Hope she is okay.