Trust issues

[Imissthesummer]

Hi all. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years now. We don't live together he has his own house and he lives not far from his kids. First year of our relationship was good but then he starts accusing me of being up to no good on my phone. He doesn't like social media phones etc cos that's how he found out his ex was cheating. So did his previous ex cheat. Every time we go on holiday ir go out we end up arguing cos he thinks I'm looking at our fellas or flirting with them if I talk to them.

I've lost some friends when I first started seeing him, so I think the only reason I've stayed with him as I don't want to be on my own again. I don't want my daughter seeing this and thinking its normal to put up with it.

Would love to hear off anyone that has been in the same position

End it. It's been a long time he should have got over his trust issues by now and be able to separate you from his ex. You said you don't want your dd thinking this is normal so that's your answer

Dump him and reconnect with your lost friends.

Only he can work on his trust issues. Making your world smaller isn't going to help anybody.

I think it’s wrong that he is doing this to you when you’ve not given him reason to do that. However I also think it’s quiet traumatic when you find out someone has broken your trust, so I can see why he has brought it forward to this relationship. But he does need to work on this. Maybe counselling would help him or else he’s going to lose you.