Dh has a well paid job, he’s the major earner (for now but I’ve had a massive pay increase to kick in from the new year). This job has been the worst thing that’s ever happened to him. Yes it’s been more money, but slowly but surely his demeanour has changed. He’s started getting picked on and frankly bullied at work by someone in senior leadership. Long story less long, this person was peer to peer, and this person trod on DHs back, to credit for his project and secured the snr role and now seems to be out for blood. He was denied bereavement time off and basically had a bit of breakdown. Was signed off and has been having therapy.
He’s back to work now and is handling work better BUT at home, he’s just like like a bubbling pot, ready to boil over. Very short tempered, takes any commenting on his behaviour as like a personal attack and sometimes he’s just so highly strung he’s unpleasant.
when he’s in a good place, we talk about how he’s acting and how it’s ruining our marriage and is unfair to the kids. But I just don’t really know what to do. I also work full time so whilst I understand he’s in such a crap situation I do need him to an adult in the household. He does a fair amount around the house but he’s perceiving it as him doing everything. But it’s not the case, due to how much scrutiny he’s under at work, any time the kids have been ill or sent home from school, ive dealt with it. We split the meals and he does light cleaning like washing up and tidying but it’s me that does the full clean. But he thinks I do nothing.
after a few weeks of calm, youngest had to be picked up from nursery today and I’ve used all my leave so he had to do it and he’s just been on edge since and then eldest’s post school tantrum has pushed him over the edge and he’s back to being a rattle snake
does anyone have any words of wisdom?