I'd appreciate some opinions on the guy I’m dating please as I’ve been told I have no patience, end and move on from things quite quickly. Personally I just think I don’t suffer fools or waste time but hey 🤷♀️
Met on a dating app but move in some of the same work circles so aware of each other prior. Dating since June and while it’s been nice and I like his company I’m getting the feeling it’s not for me.
I had a friend pull out of an event we were due to go to recently, it’s my favourite weekend in my favourite place on earth so wasn’t going to miss it. Kept the accommodation which I had paid for and invited him. I invited him giving 3 weeks notice, he could have come for 1 night of even a few hours (about 1hr drive from his house) but he said he had an appt the following week which was gonna cost €€ so would ‘skip it’. (He had the date for this appt wrong as well). This event is food focused and we’re both massive foodies so he would have loved it and it wouldn’t have cost the earth as I had accommodation covered. He stayed at home by himself all weekend instead and it meant we didn’t see each other for a month.
My issue with this is… shortly after we started dating he invited me as his plus one to a gala, a wedding, a wedding day 2 and a big birthday. He only gave me max 1 week notice for each of these invites, all of which I showed up for, spent time and money attending (I’m also a single mom so not totally easy) and made a big effort to be a great plus one, his friends apparently told him I was lovely and he was ‘punching’. I’m annoyed that I’ve showed up for him every time but he couldn’t show up for me once, for what is such a great weekend for me…. I went anyway btw but not the point.
Yesterday, I had a panic attack while driving the car and it appears I’ve developed a bit of driving anxiety (I posted about this yesterday… I swear I do have a life off of MN!). He text asking how my day was and I told him what happened and how upset I was about it because I love driving, he said ‘Oh Jesus! That’s precarious’. I said it was and that I was really upset about it and would call the GP today. He made a couple of jokes about the GP blaming it on him and that was it… didn’t ask what happened, was I okay, nothing. I said I was going for a shower and I got a text a couple of hours later saying goodnight and he was going to bed. No ‘Hope you’re feeling a bit better’ or anything along those lines. If roles were reversed, and it was him or a friend of mine ‘Are you okay? Can I do anything?’ would be the first Q I would ask.
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He has a dog, who I actually adore, he’s gorgeous and sweet, if not a bit nuts! BUT, this dog is treated like a child and can not be left alone for a minute. He sleeps in the bed so there is no sex on the nights he’s home, we need to get a dog sitter. I actually don’t mind him sleeping in the bed at all (I'm a big dog person) but I really think he should be able to sleep downstairs for an hour before bed while we DtD but it can’t happen. We don’t see each other often and between that and menstrual cycles, it’s definitely hampered the sex life a bit.
He does have great qualities, he’s funny, interesting, intelligent, independent, can be quite thoughtful. But I’m just not sure this is giving long term dating vibes anymore. I think I’m quite low maintenance and don’t ask for much, but he could at least have asked me if I was okay yesterday.
What do we think… should I just give up on this? I’d do it in a nice way and there may be a potential to just be friends afterwards.