Platonic friendship and relationships

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I’m after thoughts on this please. If you have a close platonic friend that you meet up with what happens if one of you starts a relationship with a new partner? Do you still feel it is acceptable to meet up on your own with the friend, or does the friendship change when one or both of you are in a relationship?

Don’t currently live close to each other any more as moved for work so meeting up has been a day somewhere mid way.

Would you be unhappy if your partner met up with a friend in this way?

Are you asking whether somebody in a relationship can have platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex, or whether it’s okay for people in relationships to see their friends?

Sorry if I’m not clear! Asking if friendship changes when one or both platonic friends start dating (other people) and they don’t feel it’s right to see the platonic friend as much or at all if it would be just the two of them.

What?!

I only encounter that weirdly territorial attitude on Mn. In my life everyone I know has friends of both sexes they see regularly, regardless of their relationship status. I’m married and go climbing solo with one male friend, and have gone on holiday with another. Both having been married and divorced while we’ve been friends.

I wouldn’t even contemplate being friends with someone who thought it was normal to ‘retire’ friendships depending on his relationship status. I don’t regard myself as disposable.

If you’re seeing somebody new who doesn’t think that you should be seeing your friends or gets upset or angry when you do, you need to break up with that person because they’re a controlling dick.

Everybody needs friendship. Yes, if you have friends who usually spend a lot of time together than that will naturally change a little if one or both are in relationships so that both friend and partner gets quality time; but it’s absolutely and completely not even a question that should be asked as to whether you should feel “right” for seeing a friend.

I’m the friend in this scenario -not in any relationship.

Nothing should change at all!

regardless if the friend is the same sex or opposite sex , they are a friend and are not disposable. I’ve had this issue with my current partner who isn’t comfortable with me seeing my female friends, and is convinced something has or will happen between us, which is laughable.

my argument always is , if there were feelings there, then I’d be with them and not you. Plus, I see them as sisters rather than friends so the thought of anything happening is a bit icky.

That said , certain scenarios might have to change for most I’d imagine if they ever happened before, such as staying over ( separate beds) or going away together, although personally I don’t see an issue with it but I completely understand why some might

Some friends change more than others, when they go in and out of relationships.

Sometimes same friend has behaved differently with different partners, so it's hard to predict.

A friend stopping hanging out completely, it does happen. Did to me recently, we're still technically friends & maybe we might hang out at some point, I've only seen her twice this year, once by accident and other time as part of a small group helping a Mutual friend with an emergency no notice requirement to move out of the place she was renting. I don't really stress about it and get on with enjoying company of other friends, I can't bring myself to have a conversation about why things changed, it would be reasonable, but feels too needy for my liking

Friendships naturally change over time when circumstances in life change, such as getting into a new relationship.

If you were already friends before, then I can't see why it would massively change the friendship, although it's good to be understanding of the fact that you may see them a bit less than you did before. It's all part of growing up. It's like when your friends suddenly have kids, again they will have less time for you. It's not personal, it's just the stages of life.