How come my parents don't understand me?

[LuLu15]

I am at a loss for words about my parents - how can two people who brought you up have so little understanding about what makes you tick?
I have recently just had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and I dreaded telling my mum - not because she'd be in tears but because if it's not directly about her then it can't be that bad. The day I told her in the same conversation she preceded to tell me how well my pregnant sister-in-law is and what names they're thinking about for the child. How insensitive can you get?? I tried not to react to this as that's what she wants so she can tell my brother not to mention the baby because I can't cope with hearing about it. Then today I was chatting to my dad on the phone and all he could say was you're young and you'll have another child and at least you've got one etc. I told him I was going to find it difficult seeing my pregnant sister-in-law next weekend and he said it's not like you'll be jealous or anything is it. Well yes a little tbh! They just don't get me! Can anyone sympathise with this problem? Help they're drving me crazy!

Hopefully this won't depress you further but my mother (single parent) never got me either and it's got to the stage where I now no longer see her (I won't bore you to tears with the details.) It got worse as I got older to the point where she'd have to ask me how I have my tea as she pays no attention at all to me - you'd think she'd know after 30 years! On the miscarrage front I know how you feel as I've had two and I think they are being incredibly insensitve, It's a tough one but in the end my mother hurt me so much I had to separate myself from her and it's very sad. You have to put yourself first (if they won't) and surround yourself with people who truly love and support you. I do feel for you.

Do you have any other relatives you could talk to? Sometimes in times of crisis our own parents are the most rubbish people there are. Don't be pressurised into seeing your SIL if it makes you feel bad. Try to see the people who do support you, and rant on here as much as you like!