The most hardest thing to do is get to a stage where you realise he's full responsible for his behaviours and choices. None of his choices are an indication of you not being good enough, rich enough or pretty enough. Some men are so so so so immature. They never ever grow up. My ex was in his 40s and chasing after attention from various women behind my back. He was talking to his ex too. It took me along time to learn and appreciate that people are usually pretty consistent in behaviour. So if someone is always polite and genuine they usually stay that way. If someone is selfish, entitled and half hearted in things they usually repeat a pattern..
Sadly in life sometimes we fall out of love with our partners. Sometimes it is genuine (but frowned upon) to fall for someone else. But what counts is the level of respect you show for all involved.
He's likely going to regret his hasty choices. He's also going to find the excitement stops.
Phones lead people to these situations so quickly nowadays. He's likely to do it again.
I was really hurt by my ex, mentally. He wrecked my head he was a compulsive liar who naturally denied and created lies to cover lies. I used to fall for his reassurance until one day I realised it wasn't possible for someone to constantly be always walking into drama. My mental health took a battering. I had therapy. I spent 8 months inside my own head struggling. The sort of struggle where I contacted his grown daughter etc to ask them what they thought. Everyone I spoke to had alot of negative stuff to say about him. They also said I was better of out of his world. Sadly that's true.
When all is said and done. He can't take away this damage he's caused. He's shown you he won't be there. He's not loyal..he's not going to be your protector and partner. You won't ever see him the same way. You'll always feel that little sinking feeling of sadness when you remember.
Inspiration for you. I am currently in the process of setting myself up to go rent somewhere just me and the kids. I do have a boyfriend again but honestly he isn't going to ever be solid enough for family life. He struggles alot. So my future going forward for the first time I'm planning it without the idea of love and relationships. It's not about having a loving partner for me now.
Me and my friends are all in the same boat. My best friends husband kissed her sister last year. My other friends been on dating apps 3 years and can't meet anyone.
Us girls have got to stick together. We don't all find that solid relationship. But we can still be happy. You are so welcome to message me if you need a chat.