Stay or leave? Can I move my boy 3 hours away?!

[Rmoss]

Simply put, I feel like a maid.

so my partner and I have been together for 2 years with a little boy who is 1 (Fast I know) but my partner sees no issues ever. He doesn’t treat me well, a very short fuse! There’s even a quota for sex per week and he gets mad if it’s not reached. I look after our little boy from 6am-6:30pm Monday-Saturday so he spends an hour with him in the evening, I cook, I clean etc but I’m still expected to work and pay 50% of everything?! I think he should be supporting us whilst he’s not in nursery (nursery is just too expensive). It’s even put me in lots of debt trying to keep up the 50% of everything!

I buy our boy clothes and anything he may needs. For Christmas he spent £30 on our boy but £300 each on his 2 girls.

I’ve said multiple times now about how unhappy and stressed this is making me. I’m pretty much a single mum as it is. He keeps saying it will change but I’ve never seen evidence! My dad even had to buy me a pair of jeans because I couldn’t afford them. I'd love more support but my family live 3 hours away so how could I take our boy that far away permanently.

I just feel hopeless that this point.

Bumping post - hopefully someone will come along with some helpful advice.

From what you’ve said the relationship sounds very one sided and abusive I would recommend contacting your local Women’s Aid group for support and that will help you build up the courage to do what’s right for you and your little one x

technically legally he could apply to get a prohibited steps order to stop you moving that far, a court might decide it is OK but they might not; he would be unlikely to get an order to stop you moving 30 minutes away

every time I see posts like this I wonder why women put up with such twattish men. You deserve better, your son deserves better. Imagine him growing up thinking it's ok to treat their partner like this?

God. Why keep this up? It sounds awful. I think you can move, you are not leaving the jurisdiction, but you will need his consent to change your sons school. I am not sure how you bypass that.

Sorry - given your son is not in school yet, that would be my impetus to do this sooner rather than later as both parents are required to agree on school choices and he could challenge you changing school...

It's not going to get any better, for your own mental wellbeing please leave. You will feel so much happier who wants a man child when you are bringing up a little one men like this disgust me.

I'm deeply uncomfortable with the fact you have to meet a sex quota. You need to leave this man who is abusing you. If you have somewhere to go, but it's three hours away, just pack a bag and go with your child. You will be safer in the long run. Speak to DV charities if you can.

Oh my word, how to people put up with this😱 you & your son deserve so much more than this, please don’t waste your life in this. It will get worse. Horrible.

Don't ask for his permission. Don't tell him. Just do it and don't look back.

Leave. Your partner is abusive and staying will damage you son.

Leave
you are not married ! Yay
and your son is young enough

you need to prepare and get ready

i also agree to call womens aid for some advice

but you 100% need to exit this