Hey everyone,
I just need some advice I have a 6 month old little girl and I've been trying to work it out with her dad as we've been on and off for three years and I find him difficult too be with. I also have 3 other children all boys too. Last night my boys were very badly behaved they don't like this bloke at all and have never liked him and they constantly give him abuse when he is round and deliberately play up more. I do tell them off but they don't listen, i can see it from their point of view as he has never really tried bonding with them or give them any time or positive praise when needed. Soo last night they started throwing Lego at him and cushions and calling him names, and he grabbed my 7 year old up by the arms against the wall he then pushed my eldest son to the floor with force.... I know my children aren't angels and are naughty but I'm fuming as he laid hands on them when I have told him before to never lay hands on my children. He is not their dad and doesn't have a right too and I've told him this in the past. This hasn't been the first time he has done this either. I've told him before to just ignore them as they call him names and stuff for him to react to them, I was telling him to leave last night but he kept saying I will in a min when the situation was extremely stressful he still wanted to stay like he wanted them to keep doing it and argue with them. I was completely out of control in this situation because my boys were so revved up they wasn't listening to me when I was telling them to stop.
I don't know what to do... I know my children are in the wrong but he should not be laying his hands on my kids! He was also making comments towards them baring in mind my kids are 13,10 and 7 years of age which wasn't helping. He calls them little bastards and rude.
I have been told by someone to tell the police about this and to cut ties with him completely and get someone else as the middle person when it comes to our daughter and him seeing her so he has no contact with me or the boys. It's very difficult with this bloke because he's very persistent I've tried ending it in the past but he won't have any of it and goes on and on. In the past he has always given me excuses for some of his behaviour for example his mental health, he is stressed, he has to move and is stressed etc etc he never takes responsibility for anything he does. His relationship with the boys is done he will never be able to have a bond with them even if he did try because of how much they dislike him now. I have asked him soo many times to build a bond and spend time with them and I always got I will I will change etc etc and he never does.....