To not speak to him on the phone again

[WellIdontknowwhattocallmyself]

I was meant to be speaking to my boyfriend this evening just to spend some time together it was arranged by HIM and we are long distance. I had known for a few days. He said he would call me at some point today no call came, an hour ago he mentions he was speaking to someone else and then he acts surprised as he had forgotten he agreed to call me?then mentions he has a few minutes and do I want to call.. and I’m thinking no what’s the point in that? Don’t want to feel like I’m inconveniencing him for something that he arranged himself. I didn’t even arrange it in the first place. I am autistic and hate out of the blue phone calls and can’t manage a change of plans and he knows very well how much these things affect me. Am I being unreasonable to never agree to a phone conversation with him again..

are you long distance? Not sure how talkingnon the phone is considered “spending time together?”.

YABU if you’re “never going to speak to him on the phone again” for this.

YANBU to not bother, on this occasion.

@NotaCoolMum - see line 4 of the OP...

Yes, that reaction would be U.

Instead, repeat to your bf that you like to have things planned and you can't cope with sudden changes in plan.

Then take things from there. If he's not autistic, he may well not realise how difficult you find changing plans.

you should just be honest and say "you were meant to phone me today, i've waited all day looking forward to hearing from you. i feel like ur not that bothered, you know i need things to be planned, you can't even remember calls you have arranged so what's the point"?

as, what is the actual point? it doesn't sound like either of u is invested that much?

I wouldn't bother to be in relationship where they forget/don't want to make time for calling you, he can't be that invested if he's not excited to speak to you. Even if he was busy all day a quick message to let you know he's thinking about you takes a second.