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mrsidiotagain · 17/10/2023 17:08

I have been such an idiot and I am so upset.

I was in a 'relationship' with someone for nearly 2 years, not married/no kids, and when we met he said he had just separated from his partner. I thought it was a bit quick for him to be moving on but I had such strong feelings for him I ignored all the red flags.

Anyway it appears he probably wasn't as separated as I thought and he's now decided he wants to be with her after filling my head with plans for our future. He apparently said he decided to tell his ex about us and she said she wants him back, but I think it's more likely they probably never fully separated! Either way it doesn't matter now as they are getting back together.

I feel such an idiot and I am so upset. He's completely broken my trust in men and I can't believe I was such a fool. All I want to do is message him but I won't.

I don't know what I'm hoping to gain from this but I just feel such an idiot and completely heartbroken. I don't feel like I've felt heartbreak like this before.

OP posts:
Barrowgirl · 17/10/2023 17:13

How often did you see him? Did you never have any suspicions? Did you go on holiday? Spend weekends together?

mrsidiotagain · 17/10/2023 17:15

@Barrowgirl saw him most days! No suspicions and yes went on holiday. I stayed at his house etc - no sign of a woman there. I don't think they lived together.

Regardless of whether he was or was not with her whilst we were together I'm just gutted we're over in any event. I know he's entitled to change his mind about us at any point but I just feel so used and betrayed.

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Barrowgirl · 17/10/2023 17:23

I’m sorry your gutted but sounds like there would have been lies and deceit so you dodged a bullet

Barrowgirl · 17/10/2023 17:23

He was married? They had children together?

mrsidiotagain · 17/10/2023 17:28

Not married but he had a child with her. I know you're right, I'll have dodged a bullet. Just hurts at the moment.

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Barrowgirl · 17/10/2023 17:30

He had a child wit her? So would have been in regular communication with his ex and started seeing you very soon after? Op live and learn

Barrowgirl · 17/10/2023 17:30

Did you ever meet the child?

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