Online Dating and very attractive men

[harerunner]

Should I be wary of swiping right on these men, knowing they are probably inundated with offers and will likely be players as a result? Especially as there seem so few in the 45+ age range! Is it better to stick with the more average looking guy?

Well, since attractiveness is entirely subjective and men may or may not be 'players', based on their moral compass rather than their perceived level of 'attractiveness', I'm not sure that not approaching them by right swiping has any merit - OLD is a minefield where one needs to have one's radar fully tuned and eyes and ears wide open for ANY red flags in any event.

The short answer is no.

Firstly, beauty is subjective, I've often gasped at what posters on here thought was a stunning beauty. Some find Paul Hollywood and David Beckham stunning silver fox, I don't.

Secondly, sometimes there are catfishes and bots and they often use very good looking people,though sometimes they use average people to seem more genuine. If the photos and account seem genuine I wouldn't let his attractiveness deter you because average men can fuck you around just the same. I don't think an average man is necessarily a safer bet.

Thirdly what you mean by average could actually be the more popular guy with women. I've seen posters describe 'quirky rare unconventional' things they find attractive in a man, which were shared by several women so clearly an average man is still an attractive man to many women. If you're saying you'll go so obviously unattractive then that's a different thing. But average usually means average height, average body. For many women that is actually their type that they seek so those guys too have plenty of options.

Lastly, it's no secret that the guys who will be most grateful for your attention are the ones so obviously unattractive... but would you want to be with them? Is it fair on either of you to cling onto each other out of insecurity?
I've known average and unattractive guy incredibly arrogant and cocky, delusional to their level of attractiveness but when I observed them I found that there are women who fall for this type of 'confident cocky lad' type. I've also seen tall attractive guys with crippling social anxiety and lack of self confidence... so looks are not the deciding factor, get to know the individual.

Attractiveness comes down to your own views of what is and what isn't like with everyone else.

How attractive someone is won't determine what their personality or behavior is like, there's arseholes across the board.

As PP said, I've found the same, although I am a guy but I've known plenty of horrible guys who I wouldn't say were good looking or were average and you wonder how they even find someone. Similarly, some guys who you would expect to be that way because they were more good looking were nice.

Don't settle for someone you don't really find attractive just because they may be a nicer person. Instead, gauge their personality on how they communicate with you and how they behave. Those that are faking being genuine struggle to keep the act up, whereas true genuine it comes naturally and will be consistent.

I take it you assume you fall into this category of god like beautiful creatures? Do the average looking blokes a favour and steer clear of them if that’s your attitude luv…