How do you approach/ flirt with someone within your organisation?

[PeachesoutinGeorgia]

I like a guy at work (I know, eyeroll)
we used to be on the same team pre Covid and spoke quite a bit but no longer are. I saw him earlier today and I really would love to start speaking to him again but how do you navigate this in an appropriate way?

Theres loads of couples that met at our work so it’s obviously do-able but I seem to have missed the memo about how you initiate anything without getting reported to HR or show any kind of interest?

Has anyone successfully paired up with anyone at their job or have any advice. I’ve liked him for so long. TIA x

If you're not in the same chain of command, you do it the same way you'd do it anywhere.

"Would you like to go for a coffee/drink sometime?" generally works fine.

That’s just so brave though …. 🥹

Just gonover to him and say hi. Bit of small talk, say you don't see much of each other now you're on different teams and fancied a catch up and wondered if he fancied going for a coffee.

Simple... 😉

Send him an email or a message saying was nice to bump in to you today, do you fancy grabbing lunch?

Then do you fancy a coffee, dinner,drink bla bla bla

Okay, then do nothing. It's your life.

None of us have a magic spell that will make him ask you out.

First thing you do is to ask if he is single!

Actually, unless he initiates first then he probably isn't

He’d have to be totally nuts to get involved at work.

Get some people together for drinks and invite him along

Arrange after work drinks / social/ team building event,

Be kind. It sounds like OP's understandably just a bit nervous.

OP if it were me, I'd use today's encounter as an in. So great to see you today, if you ever fancy meeting up for a coffee/lunch/catch up, just let me know. Easy breezy

Do you know if he has any hobbies or interests that you can ask him to teach you about?

Looking back on my dating life before marriage, I over thought so much, and sometimes you just need to build a connection. Try to do that and find ways to have conversations with him and then grow to feel comfortable asking to meet up outside of work.

OP, no you don’t. 🙄

If he’s in a relationship and that means he can’t have a coffee with you (Ffs) then he can say that or just politely decline.

@TurnerP People are not property.

I don’t think you necessarily have to ask him to go for coffee or lunch.

Smiling at him, taking an interest in what he says, holding eye contact a few seconds longer than you usually would etc etc etc. You’ll soon know if he’s interested or not.

I like to cut to the chase, why waste time in meeting for a coffee to then find out he is either single or married or a cheater

This

Just ask for a catch up. Even if he's not single, there's no harm in a bit of networking, you just gocus on work projects and people so you know a bit about things outside your department.

If he is single, you can ask about more personal stuff too.

Facebook friend him ? or Instagram
if he likes you back you’ll know
he will start liking your posts etc

and why eye roll ! How else do people meet !