Arguing- how much is normal?

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So. My relationship isn't great. 35 years. We have always argued. How much arguing is normal?
How much do people argue?

2 arguments in 8 years. But I don't really think there is a "norm".

We've been together 28 years, very rarely argue (one a month if that). Never carry it on to the next day. But then I think we are pretty compatible (same political views, same type of job etc) and we are both easy going. We used to argue about cleaning and I felt I needed.more help so we got a.cleaner and it solved the problem.

All the time here.
DH just seems to be that way. It turns every conversation into bickering. DM always comments on it when she sees us and tells us to stop arguing.
It was only a few years ago that I realised, as I was sat in PIL house listening to them bicker, that DH has obviously learned it from them and he’s turn us into a younger version! We’ve been together 25 years so we aren’t going to change now.
It’s not often serious arguments though.

I think it's also what you argue about and whether the arguments lead to any kind of resolution.

Depends what you mean by arguing really! We do bicker quite regularly but I can’t really remember the last time we had a serious argument, it’s a good few years ago to be honest. We do a lot of sighing and eye rolling though!

Normal is different for everybody. I used to argue probably weekly with my ExH, but post-separation and after experiencing very different relationships, I think the arguing was coming from frustration/resentment/contempt. Current relationship, probably an argument every other month. As another poster has said, significantly less arguments since getting a cleaner!

Maybe once a week? But we are both quite vocal, proud, and stubborn, and have a hard time conceding any ground. Also doesn't help that we sit at opposite ends of the political spectrum and come from different cultures, so everything from the cooking to discussing the news is a potential argument. I grew up in a home where being "right" was considered more important than "getting along" so it's really hard to just agree to disagree... although I obviously know that's the mature thing to do, it feels impossible in the heat of the moment.

However, it's far more rare for us to actually fall out, and this feels devastating whereas we recover from an argument fairly quickly.