Legal advice for ex step kids

[singlemumhelp]

Hello,

Need a little advice. Was with my partner 3.5 years. Been a very turbulent few years. Drinks alot, we don't live together and never would. He was a bit of a narcissist tbh. Always wants everyone to feel he is the worse off that everyone leaves him etc. so I have known his girls for 7 years. They are 10 and 12. Last year social was involved due to a drunken incident and it was all sorted. However this has got worse. To the point the other day he scared me and the puppy as we had a puppy together. And tried ripping my car door of so I don't leave:

We paid half each for the dog; he had a operariom and was off work so I paid for lots of food shops and money for things and in return he allowed me to use his credit card because that was my bill money and I pay £100 a month of this credit card. It has £1400 on it.

Anyways after the last incident I am now downs well and truly. Me and his ex wife of his children work together. We get on well: so she has had my son this weekend whilst I went away as he couldn't go to his dads as they are having a baby. She's also has the dog for me as a we have an issue with the letting agency that I went to declare I have a dog but a neighbour had complained she barks. But she really doesn't, so I am waiting for them to see if the landlord will allow me a puppy. She is good for my son as he's autistic. So if says no will play that card and hope I don't get evicted. As the letting agency had a go at me for allowing my sister to stay the weekend whilst I was away with her dog: didn't realise helping her out or having her dog even two nights would cause suchbossuew.

So I am stressing about the landlord, but also my ex partner has said because e and his ex wife get on and he doesn't want me to be around his kids as if he can't have me neither can they he is threatening legal advice and basically that he bans me and her having contact and the kids seeing each other. And to sue for the credit card and dog: well the dog came out of my bank account the full £550 and he transferred me some money, she is registered to me; her insurance is in my name etc. does he have a leg to stand on as such? Can he also stop us having contact? I am so stressed

He can’t stop you from seeing his ex, no. You can choose your own friends. If she wants you to see the kids when they’re with her that’s her decision, not his. Understandable if she doesn’t given you never even lived with them though.

I think with pets in rentals asking permission rather than forgiveness is probably wiser but you’ll have to talk to them.

It all sounds quite hectic. Hope you get things sorted. Alcoholics don’t make good boyfriends and relationships shouldn’t be hard work.

She wants us to have a friend relationship and for me to be involved in their lives. She had my kid this weekend and the dog for me next week. Just him being a nightmare. Completely all him not wanting me to see the kids because he can't have me.

I had the dog a few nights a week and sometime my sisters. Supposedly they've recieved a few complaints about me purchasing a dog. The few neighbours around knew I had her occasionally; always said they never heard her and the old tenants all had dogs. I went away this weekend and my ex knew suddnerlt the day I was going away the letting agency had complaints: so would suprise me if it was him that ring them. He wants the dog back but I've said no because he cannot be trusted on her own.

I'd tell him to go ahead with getting legal advice so they can laugh in his face. That is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard.

Ignore him and carry on with your friendship.