Am I wrong to want to leave

[Bruno2]

So I’ve (33) been with partner (40) 7years, started off great then we moved in together 3yrs ago, since then it’s kinda got ‘boring’ he spends all evening after work gaming from 5-2/3am, on a weekend he games all day and night. He never spends time with me unless I arrange something or ask him. I can’t remember the last time we went out together.

He has 2 children from previous I have 1. I asked him about our future plans and he doesn’t care, he doesn’t want to go on holiday have children or get married. I want all them things and didn’t think I would be doing everything as a mum and son forever. I’m at a place in my life after intense therapy where I'm constantly thinking is this what I want? After I think this I then feel bad because I want different to him, but then he doesn’t seem to care so why do I think this way.

am I wrong to want more out of my life than I’m getting now? Is it wrong to want a better future?

Don't worry, of course you're not wrong. Your feelings are your feelings, and if you're not happy in the relationship, then you need to consider your options.

You would be wrong to stay. Just leave. He’s a terrible role model for your son.

There is so much more to life and you are able to go out and find that - if that’s what you want?
good luck 🍀

I absolutely know this, don’t know why I feel so guilty about leaving

He's the one who should feel guilty for checking out of your marriage.

You guys aren't married so it would be a fairly straightforward split, only needing to resolve any home equity.

This does not sound like a good relationship for you, you both want fundamentally different things. It's hard to say if you will get a better life because none of us know what the future holds, but if you leave you will find out.

Without knowing how attractive you are DH are I cannot say if you will find better but I hope you do.

He’s checked out.
Seize the initiative and kick him into touch.
The relationship has run its course so he’s burying himself in gaming and you are left high and dry.
Make a plan and leave.

From an ethical or "fairness" perspective, of course you're not wrong to want to leave, and won't be wrong if you do leave. It's your life; you have to decide how to live it. I understand not wanting to disrupt/break up a family unit or hurt a long-term partner who you love or once loved, but you can't live your life for others and make yourself unhappy in the process. And in this case, it doesn't seem that he'd be that upset if you did go. It also doesn't sound like there's any basis for the kind of relationship that you want, or any hope of the two of you coming to a compromise so you each get more of what you want from a relationship.

If by "wrong" you mean is it the wrong decision for you - e.g., will you later be sorry because even if this relationship isn't right it's better than nothing and you don't want to be alone or start fresh with someone new - that's a question that no one can answer. What are your reasons for staying with him? Will you always be wondering if there's a better life and wishing for something more/different if you stay?

Leave him so he can spend his life gaming. You are wasting your time with him.

When does he see his kids?
Sounds like a miserable relationship and you deserve better.

Sounds awful , totally boring. You don’t need justification to leave a non-relationship.

When does he bother with his children?