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Is it too early to bring up kids/moving out

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Username4930 · 15/10/2023 16:53

So I have been dating this lovely girl for 2 and a half months now, im 25 while she ia 23 but we are both very inexperienced when it comes to relationships. I've never been in a relationship or had a GF before so this is my first. I really like her and I think she is perfect for me as we both want a quiet life, We both dont smoke, We both aint party animals, We both love going for walks, we both dont use social media and on top of that I love how natural looking she is as she isnt the type of girl to wear makeup or wear revealing clothes. She would probaly be considered "plain" and she has told me in the past that girls have called her "boring" or "plain" but those are the types of girls I prefer.

Shes very bubbly and her family are quiet but lovely people, she's caring as she is always helping out her family or she will sometimes bring me round stuff like cakes or cookies that she has baked, I dont want to sound weird but she does have a lot of traits which tells me she will make a good mother figure.

I have been saving up for a mortgage for the past few years and I plan on moving out by the time im 26 which is not till june, im just getting sick of living at home and I just want to be on my own or with her. My father is a drunk who doesnt work, my brother is a waster who never helps out around the house and his GF literally lives here so at times I cant get to sleep without hearing them shag each other next door, my mother is hard working and although I work full time but I try to make life easier for her like I would clean or get shopping for her.

But I just really want to move out and start my own family, Im pretty sure my GF wants kids as it said on her dating app profile that she wants them someday but I've not asked her yet.

OP posts:
TicTacNicNak · 15/10/2023 18:46

assignedferretatbirth · 15/10/2023 18:44

Am I the only person getting misogyny incel danger vibes.

Yep, me too. I'm thinking this is a wind up thread and not legit. If it's real I'd be telling the gf to take note of the red flags fluttering.

Nowherenew · 15/10/2023 18:49

assignedferretatbirth · 15/10/2023 18:44

Am I the only person getting misogyny incel danger vibes.

Why because he’s complimenting his gf and not slagging her off?

He’s literally not said one bad thing about her but posters like you will still try and twist his words.

Shayisgreat · 15/10/2023 18:51

Do you love her? Is she very special to you? Or does she just tick the boxes you have?

It sounds like you are looking to tick boxes rather than have a proper connection with another person. That is a sure fire way to heartache for at least one of you.

FrostieBoabby · 15/10/2023 18:52

In the unlikely event this is genuine..... You lost me a taking control of the relationship, hopefully GF will spot the red flags.

JustACountryMusicGirlInCowboyBoots · 15/10/2023 18:52

This exact same thread was posted a few weeks ago.

Lentilweaver · 15/10/2023 18:54

assignedferretatbirth · 15/10/2023 18:44

Am I the only person getting misogyny incel danger vibes.

No.

OhcantthInkofaname · 15/10/2023 18:56

Take control? Of what?

Lentilweaver · 15/10/2023 18:57

Madonna whore complex.

Ladyj84 · 15/10/2023 18:58

My view is very different, if your both able to talk about everything then talk about it. One week in me and my now hubby knew we wanted kids, knew we wanted to be together and within 4 weeks of meeting got married and a house 3 and a half years on we have 3 children and are happy bunnies. He works and I did cleaning until the children we stay debt free, enjoy family life and love each other

threecupsofteaminimum · 15/10/2023 19:52

Someone is bored on a Sunday night methinks.

FromAustin · 15/10/2023 19:56

This was posted earlier in the week.I think it went very MRA type vibe and probably got deleted.

Sad fucker

TheresaOfAvila · 15/10/2023 20:03

Nowherenew · 15/10/2023 18:49

Why because he’s complimenting his gf and not slagging her off?

He’s literally not said one bad thing about her but posters like you will still try and twist his words.

He likes to take control- preference for docile and obedient in a wife is not attractive.

Has she ever disagreed with you or demonstrated to you that you were just wrong about something, or even just been in charge of something because she is more competent than you OP?

CharlotteRose90 · 15/10/2023 20:03

Leave her alone. You are the same person who said she broke up with you not long along. You need therapy not a girlfriend.

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