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If anyone fairly young but living a life without sex?

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discodancingcat · 15/10/2023 11:29

I am in my early 30s, and for various reasons I live a life without sex with another person. Would I like to be doing it? Yes, in the right circumstances. But a lot would need to change in my life for that to be able to happen. Plus I have found relationships problematic once they have turned sexual in the past so sometimes I do think perhaps life is less complicated without it.

Sometimes I feel I am the only young person out there who is living a life like me. I feel I have no sexuality or a loss of myself as a woman or even a human being sometimes which i know is ridiculous. I feel embarrassed to even admit it makes me a bit sad.

I'm not really looking for advice to change the situation because it would be very difficult to change it, and cause a lot of other problems and it's not worth disrupting my whole life just to have a sexual one. Just wondered if anyone else is out there like me.

OP posts:
PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 18/10/2023 07:03

Forgot to mention I also have a relatively high sex drive too :(

lookingforMolly · 18/10/2023 11:24

Yes. I'm 47 and not in a relationship; I really miss affection and sex with a man. I haven't dated since 2019!!

But I'm not in a place to try OLD right now as I feel im too overweight and I've just lost my mum after an illness.
Also I recognise that I'm quite vulnerable as I have a serious mental illness (which I take medication for). I don't share this diagnosis with new men by the way, I just say I get depressed/ anxious. My general mental health was not been good before my mum got poorly this year, basically I've been up & down since Covid. Now it's improving again.

I would like to feel attractive again so I know I need to lose at least 2 stone but with my meds it's really hard!!
I do make an effort with highlights, makeup & nice clothes.
To be honest I don't necessarily need a long term partner, I'd be happy with a FWB but he'd have to be very trustworthy.
I find it very hard to trust men.

lookingforMolly · 18/10/2023 11:30

There is a man at work who I like.. he's 44 and may be single or just have a girlfriend but is definitely not married. We're actually facebook friends.

He is very senior to me and works on a different site so I hardly ever see him.
He does go out of his way to speak to me when he sees me even though he is actually quite shy & I feel that there may be an attraction there but a busy workplace is not an ideal environment to find out.
He is very good looking and probably too out of my league unfortunately!! But he's so nice, kind to others from what I hear, and intelligent.. etc.etc

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