I need to vent, possibly even get some advice.
I've been up since 2, having only fell asleep just after midnight. The reason, my DH's snoring. I was woken by a very loud noise, thought I was being attacked, but it was the sheer pitch of DH's snore that woke me. I had gone to bed at 10pm, and couldn't sleep until after midnight as that was when DH's snoring had thankfully stopped.
It isn't the first time. This has been ongoing now for over 10 years and I've just about had enough.
He has sleep apnea, and used to sleep with a CPAP machine, stopped using it after 6 months as he found it too hard to sleep with. He could go until 3/4am wearing it and then he'd remove it. I at least had a good block of sleep during that time. He lost some weight and this helped with his snoring, but now that he has a sedentary job, he's gained 10ish lbs and the snoring has worsened, yet he is refusing to use his machine. He gasps for air, occasionally stops breathing and the jolt of his body when he gasps is unsettling, the noise is horrific and very loud.
I have my own health issues, chronic pain condition and semi functioning kidneys which means I'm on a lot of medication and often feel rough at the end of a busy day and need my rest.
I just don't know what to do, and if I can continue like this for the rest of our marriage. I love him dearly, we've been married for 22 years. I am trying to be sympathetic towards him not wanting to mask, I've tried it and it's not nice, however, if there was something I was doing that was affecting him the same way he is affecting me, I'd try my hardest to change it. He's offered to sleep on the sofa, which is no good as it's directly under the bedroom and I can still hear him snore. Separate bedrooms are not an option, and I can't wear ear plugs, can't tolerate them, I've tried.