Why would you message your ex if you had moved on?

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Simply that. I thought our relationship was strong/solid. We have a future planned. So why message your ex (no ties only shared history). They were previously blocked for being a dick.

What did the message say?

It was general chit chat I was told. I didn't see the content. I don't understand why you would be in contact with someone who was purportedly so awful to you and caused a lot of emotional damage.

You’re not giving very much to go on, here! How long were they together, how long ago, how long have you been together, what was the nature of the general chitchat and how did it come up in your conversation? Did you ask why they’d been in contact and, if so, what was their response?

Probably for the ego stroke. Some people are fucked up. They don't want you but they're the sort that need to to still want them. They can't stand to think that you are over them and so text you to make sure you keep thinking of them.

Other alernatives are - looking for a shag. Or, best case scenario, they miss having their ex as a friend. Which in itself could be dodgy territory if they are in a new relationship.

Can you give more info?

Sorry I didn't think the rest was relevant. We've been together over a year. They split over 2 years ago. They were together 5 years I believe.

I asked and that was what I was told. I asked because it was bothering me. DP was a bit annoyed tbh.

People are often dicks at the end of a relationship, maybe there was an apology for dickish behaviour or just general chit chat now there’s lots of water under bridge. Doesn’t mean a romantic relationship will restart, does mean they have had time to reflect and move on. If you do suspect there’s something more then friendship, invite her plus one for supper, you’ll be able to work out what’s going on

Sometimes curiosity… wondering what’s happened to them/if they’re ok.

Not uncommon, I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

Thank you. I've not been sleeping due to it. I am an open book and I often mention who I've spoken to etc. I like open honest relationships.

There are insecurities starting to creep in for me and I don't know if I'm justified or not. Or if it is my past clouding things. My ex and I were awful together at the end and it often leaves me unsure of what is reasonable and not.

No one here can answer this, you have to ask your partner. 'General chit chat ' sounds like bullshit. Likely he was testing waters to see if his ex still had a soft spot for him and whether she was an option. Wouldn't text her if he had no interest imo