I've got a brother and a sister both younger than me. Since becoming adults we have all at different times moved out and in with partners. I've always suggested coming together for birthdays, Christmas etc but with work and feeling that they have their own lives the main person I see regularly is my mum
I think things have been bad without me realising until now. My brother originally had a partner that was shall we say controlling. He would book to go somewhere on special occasions like mothers day and take my brother away from his family. So we got used to my brother being unavailable for more general things. They did break up and he got a new partner who is alot nicer. During lockdown my partner invited my sister to have drinks in the garden, he didn't ask my brother. I'm not sure why but he probably assumed he was busy. My sister must have told my brother and at a later date it got thrown in about him being left out. Despite the fact that my brother and sister would go out for lunch or to seaside without asking me and post on social media.
Just lately we had another situation where my sister wanted a lift, she doesn't drive. But she expects whenever there is a meal that we drop everything and pick her up. So I said okay but can you walk to our house - she lives nearby. The next thing she's rang my brother kicking off saying I won't give her a lift. My mum told me this. My mum also said that she d asked my brother if he hears from me. And he'd bitterly said no I don't bother with him. I feel my sister has stirred up trouble and he mistakenly thinks I only bother with her. I told my mum that actually I don't like to ask her to do anything because of the trouble she caused by telling him about the lockdown meet up.
At this point I'm feeling hurt, I already had the impression they just liked each other more than me. They post pictures in social media locked in group hugs etc and I know my brother will go into her work place and suggest lunch. I also realise he can't do that at my workplace. But whilst I can accept that some people get on better than others i feel my sister has created a lot of trouble by stirring things. I already know she's two faced and lies. She lied to her workplace about caring for a relative so she could have 2 weeks off. I know I'm rambling now, I'm just torn.