Just that really. We often read/talk about one abusive parent, either towards their partner or a child, but what about if both parents were abusive to each other?
Without typing out my life story, I’m 29, no DC but engaged. One parent was abusive towards me and my other parent, but the other parent was also abusive towards my abusive parent.
I am trying to maintain loving but boundary-heavy relationships with both (both are on low information diets etc and it generally works OK). The parent who was abusive towards me believes I have betrayed them by having a relationship with the other parent, but refuses to believe they were terrible towards me because of their own trauma. If I tell them why I haven’t cut the other parent out I genuinely fear the worst for their mental health as they are so entrenched in their own pain and feelings. There is no world outside of theirs and they see in black and white.
Not expecting answers - there basically are none and I cannot go fully NC due to younger siblings’ care needs (they’re still at home). Just wondering if anyone has been through similar?