I sick of being single

[BlimminNorah]

I'm prepared to be told that I'm "still so young" or that I "have my whole life ahead of me" but it doesn't change the way I feel at the moment.

I'm 25 and would love to be in a happy and healthy relationship but I've just never had any luck with guys. Online dating isn't an option for me and I don't tend to meet people when out and about like a lot of others do. I have a good group of friends and we go out frequently and I really cherish the time but, I feel like I'm ready for a relationship.

I have a good job and earn a good salary, I have a car, pay my way (still live at home) so I'm not totally dependent. I've been single for about 3 years and in that time I've only managed to have about 4/5 dates.

I know theres not a solution, just wanted to write this somewhere.

I agree it is hard to meet people post uni or if you didn't go. If you don't want to go online you might see the same guy on your nights out with your friends, you just never know what is around the corner. Depending on where you live you could go to a singles dining club, I know they are more in bigger cities. Otherwise groups involving hobbies or maybe a gym will a good place to start widening your social circle?

If you keep telling yourself there not a solution then it won't happen. If you don't take a opportunities to date online or speak to anyone outside your friendship group, then there is only a small random by luck chance. You have to want to get yourself out there.

Imagine saying I want a job but I'm not looking online or asking outside of my friends how likely would that be. You wouldn't because you really wanted that job and it wouldn't matter that sometimes you get turned down because you keep persevering.

This really. You’re going to have to push yourself out of your comfort zone. I know people like to say things ‘oh it’ll happen when you least expect it’, but it probably won’t if you don’t make an effort to even meet someone. A partner isn’t going to magically fall into your lap

Online dating really isn't an option. Almost a year ago I had someone falsely report my account as I didn't want to see them again so I was permanently banned. Due to the ban (it was hinge) I have also been permanently banned from all dating apps/sites owned by match group which just so happen to be all of the popular ones. I'm hoping I'll meet someome "organically" but it's just really hard

The Dating apps are owned by different companies how they ban you on all of them??

I have a few friends who have met people organically in recent years. Here's how they met:

Via sports - a cross fit group class. They now have a baby together
Friend of a friend - introduced at a wedding via a mutual friend.
Work - hooked up at a Xmas party

Just get a new email address and a PAYG sim phone for dating apps Every app can't ban you on every method of contact. They aren't that sophisticated.

Don't give up!! It will happen in the oddest ways! I felt like at 38 I would never find Mr right. Boss made me switch departments... yep, I met him. We got married last month

Thanks everyone, I'm just feeling quite deflated and overwhelmed by it. It's such hard work to click with people or meet people that don't just want to hook up.

@WorldCuppa Match Group own the majority of dating apps e.g., hinge, tinder, OkCupid etc. after I was banned from Hinge, I tried to make a new account on a different app as was banned immediately.

@ShellySarah I tried the new email address but they can also (apparrently) track your ip address so I was banned again!

@Lovecatsanddogs yes it is quite hard post uni. I joined a society and that's where I met my friends so thought maybe I'd meet someone romantically.

I thought maybe I'd meet someone at work however, theres only two of us in the office and we wfh 4 days.

I realise sound defeated and unwilling to try anything but I am really just defeated, especially as online dating has been "taken away" from me.

Have you tried Facebook dating, or asking friends and family if they know anyone you can be introduced to? Failing that there's a few reality dating shows you could try which might be fun
Some places do still have singles nights and speed dating
Good luck

Match only bans like that for things like criminal activity, sexual exploitation, domestic violence, prostitution , fraud, hate speech, and they have habe the technology to check it factually.

people falsely report all the time, it needs to be evidenced when they investigate.

I didn't meet DP until I was 31 and we met at a wedding. I'd tried Tinder ect for years. It does happen. Good luck, OP. I was the single friend for years and it sucks .

If you want to meet men then go where they are: Golf clubs, sports clubs, political parties (amazing who you can meet delivering leaflets together!), hiking groups etc.

Just some advice regarding being banned, unless you specifically pay for a static IP address, you will be on dynamic like most households and your IP address will change frequently at random times. So, you may be able to again.

New job where's there's plenty of people?

@Janieforever I did try to appeal the ban but it was rejected. Not surprised it was rejected though, I had no idea what I'd been banned for, I was just told that I "violated terms of service". I did email them in january but they weren't interested.

@TurnerP it's just me and my mom I'm afraid. I have asked her but she doesn't know anybody in my age range.

@NewYorkBride yes, being the single friend sucks, I can't relate to some things my friends tell me!!

@Catsafterme that's interesting to know, thank you. I've also recently had a new phone so I assume it may have a different ip address

Time to look confused in B&Q op 😁

Facebook dating groups can be quite good. You can go back over their past posts to get a feel of who they are and stalk their profile if it's set to public. I'm on the adventure singles group and they have lots of events dotted round the country like hikes or paddle boarding.

@LightSpeeds I've just started this job and I really enjoy it. I don't think it's worth the move, it would look bad on my CV too 😅

I must admit I haven't been out for a while. I'm always tired when it gets to the weekend and I end up not wanting to leave the house. I know that's shit so I'm going to try and go out once a week if I can

@Spinnymop I have been needing to go to b & q for some paint 🤔 now's my time to shine

Bumble isn’t owned by Match group, OP!

It is definitely worth trying to join local sports groups or running groups, any gyms, or any meet up groups of things that interest you in the first place. It is also worth starting to look into local places such as a church or pub where you could go once a week. There are also singles supper or cooking classes and the like in the big cities. Can you join any professional networks to expand your network through work, attend any conferences or take any further professional courses?

@BlimminNorah Yes, the only way you can be banned permanently on a device is a hardware ban/MAC address which is an address specific to the device itself rather than your IP address.

Most will ban via email, IP maybe phone number and you can get around those. Hardware ban is more costly and a stronger deterrent but not many ban to those extremes.

@occhiazzurri thank you for your suggestions, I had not thought of these!!

@Catsafterme thank you for the insight, I may try again :)