So I have come to realise that my relationship has been abusive for the last 7 years, I keep hearing gaslighting, coercive control and emotional abuse, I asked my husband to go to therapy to address his behaviour, constantly criticising me putting me down all while doing absolutely nothing for the last seven years for our child,
he went to a counsellor , twice and then has decided he won’t go again because all I do is talk about the past, he says I can’t talk about the past when he tells me I should be ashamed or the house but refuses to do his share , I can’t talk about the past, I’ve to accept all the abuse and move on
i need him to acknowledge his behaviour and realise that he has been in the wrong , it seems he is expecting me to do the same as always where it builds up to an incident then in the calm afterwards I pretend it didn’t happen until it happens again the next time
apparently I think counselling is a miracle cure , I have never said this , but after only two sessions he’s decided not to go , he got pretty angry at the last session something was said that seemed to trigger him
My thoughts now are that I should probably have counselling myself to help me
worl through things