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What little nice things to you do for each other in your relationship

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C1239 · 12/10/2023 22:20

We have been together just over 10 years and I just wondered what other relationships are like around this time? What little nice things do you do for each other to keep the relationship in a good place?

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caringcarer · 12/10/2023 22:40

DH brings me tea in bed every morning. He fills my car up with fuel for me. When it's icy he scrapes the windscreen in a big heart shape so I can see out of it. He gets FS breakfast on days I have to drive him to college early so I get a bit of a lie in and he puts a cup of tea in a travel cup to go for me. He makes me a hot water bottle when my back aches and rubs foot cream on my feet sometimes for me. He gives me outrageous compliments that are way over the top. He saves into an ISA but every so often he takes me to buy a new ring. His first ISA bought my engagement ring so now he calls them my ring funds. I cook him a veggie meal in a separate oven to me and FS. I sometimes send him a heart ❤️ message when he works in the office. I make him a coffee when he comes home from work. I let him watch football on Saturdays on TV without complaining. I even do a little cheer if his team scores a goal. If we share a pizza I let him have the bigger slices and sometimes one of my slices of I'm not very hungry. I let him choose the wine when we go out too. We've been married for 18 years and lived together for 20 years.

jipjopjip · 12/10/2023 22:41

6 years in here - I cook for DP every night something really delicious and fresh - he appreciates it so much which makes it so so worth it. He buys me flowers on occasion and brings me back me favourite snack. We also take it in turns to plan a surprise date.

Errolwasahero · 12/10/2023 22:48

Our main thing is we just make each other laugh in silly ways.

Hummusanddipdip · 12/10/2023 22:48

Nothing too extravagant, we're in the thick of young children. It's mainly drink and food related 🤣

Dh gets me my favourite chocolate bar and a bottle of 7up whenever he goes to the shop. He runs me a bath if he's working from home on Fridays
I get him a bottle of Lemon Fanta when I see it. Always pick him up a diam bar. I put little notes in his lunch, he actually has them all in a paperclip on his desk at work. Which I think is cuter than me writing them.

KnitFastDieWarm · 12/10/2023 22:56

He buys me flowers just because he likes to, does the washing up for me, makes amazing roast dinners, gives me foot rubs, writes me poems, tells me I’m the most beautiful woman in the world. I get his favourite coffee and cake delivered to him at work if he’s having a bad day, knit him socks, mend his clothes, cook him his favourite food, organise lovely weekend breaks for us, tell him how gorgeous he is. We listen to each other, support each other, laugh a lot.

I was previously married to a man who showed me zero affection for years - the difference is like night and day.

Catullus5 · 13/10/2023 03:15

Love the heart windscreen! ❤️

Aria999 · 13/10/2023 03:20

DH does things for me. Like if I have a headache he goes and finds me a painkiller and a glass of water even though I could perfectly well do it myself. Or if I'm stressed offers to get me a drink or run me a bath. It's lovely.

Idrankyourbananamilk · 13/10/2023 03:34

I have covid at the minute, and he’s ferrying everything I need including stuffed toys to me. He popped to the shop before bedtime to get me a banana milk unasked because he knows I love it. He’s a good un.

Routinely, he will buy me a pen because it has a cat on it or a cake at a shop he’s working near, or a T-shirt he knows I’ll love with a silly picture on it. He makes me tea in bed on a weekend, as he’s always up first, and he offers to pick me up from the train station if it’s raining.

Similar stuff from my side: he thinks with his belly so making his favourite dinner if he’s tired or making him coffee on a week day if I’m up first. I make his lunch in a morning and pop tasty snacks in 😂

LadyOfTheCanyon · 13/10/2023 03:36

Because I'm a florist he never buys me flowers! But after a long day on my feet I'll come home to a bubble bath and glass of wine on the side.

He buys me random little gifts he thinks I'll like or need and often hides them under my pillow. The last one was the book A bird in winter by Louise Doughty. Before that it was a new pair of trainers because I was moaning I didn't have a decent pair for walking.

He had some photos of me printed out and took to hiding them in places like the bread bin so I'd just randomly come across them, which always made me laugh.

I tend to make things, so I'll paint a little picture of something silly and put it in an envelope and post it through the door
for him to find.

I cook him his favourite foods even when I'm not that fussed about it myself. I buy him the occasional little treat like a chocolate bar as he works from home and the shops are a bit of a trek, so I'll just prop it in front of his monitor before I go to work.

I recently sent him a pair of socks with the pattern of the carpet in The Overlook hotel ( in The Shining), which is one of his favourite films.

We send each other daft memes and reels throughout the day as well as texts saying I love you or similar. We take it in turns to make the first cup of tea if the day.

Mostly we just make each other laugh. We've been together for fifteen years. He's the absolute best.

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