How often do you speak on the phone?

[Notaboutthebass]

For those of you who have been in a relationship for under a year or similar, and see each other a couple of times a week?

Thanks.

We rarely spoke on the phone but would message every day.

3 times a day

Every day even if only for half an hour, but we only say each other once a week.

Thinking about it, I don’t think I’ve ever spoken to now-DH on the phone unless it’s been a) an urgent call or b) he’s been away over Christmas and we’ve had a chat on the day. Neither of us are really phone talkers with anyone in our lives.

I don’t think there’s a one size fits all to this. Some people find phone conversations awkward because they need physical cues to communicate well, some people love any opportunity for a good phone marathon chat.

2-3 times a day

I’ve been with my husband five years and we’ve spoken on the phone less than ten times, in total. When we were dating, we messaged (What’s App) quite a lot, but no phone calls. I don’t speak to anyone on the phone if I can help it. It’s so (to me) unbearably dull.

WhatsApp. Occasional voice notes. The only time we've spoken on the
phone was, "I'm out of my interview, please can you come and collect me?" (He got the job.) I don't usually speak to anyone else on the phone if I can avoid it, either.

We've been together/married 15 years now, but when we were first dating, I'm not sure we ever spoke on the phone. Maybe if there was an urgent emergency sort of thing (I was supposed to be pick up at A, but I ended up in B, so I called after no response to messages). Usually we just messaged. We were long distance for 2 years after that and I can't even remember a time we called (skyped, back them as international calls were not affordable) even in those 2 years. We messaged each other. Neither of us are phone people. I would assume he was in a car accident or someone died if dh rang me - in fact, only time in recent memory that I can think of when he rang me was last year when he had a motorbike accident and a concussion and he didn't know where he was and called me confused about what happened and why he was in a field (it was our field, thankfully) with his motorbike!