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Younger man

54 replies

missipp · 12/10/2023 18:32

I am late 38, female, single, no kids, got my own place, good job etc.
Met a guy at a bar last week and we really hit it off. Great conversation, he's funny, seemed mature and extremely attractive..!
We exchanged numbers and have been chatting but he's only 26!!! 😫
I'm so torn. I know it's not going to be a serious relationship or anything like that, but I like him and I'm tempted to meet and have a good time.
Would you do it?

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anywherehollie · 13/10/2023 11:26

I'm 35 and my fiancé is 24 🙂

MaxTalk · 13/10/2023 11:36

Definitely - shag him for a few years. He will of course eventually get someone his own age or younger but enjoy whilst you can.

StarlightLady · 13/10/2023 11:37

2 consnting adults who want to enjoy themselves. There is nothing distasteful about that. Mid 20s with an almost 40 year old is very different to someone in their mid teens.

PollyAmour · 13/10/2023 11:42

Assuming you're not wanting marriage and babies, then a fling with a younger man sounds fab. Enjoy!

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missipp · 13/10/2023 12:15

Some funny comments from people thinking it's odd for someone in their near 40's being with a man in their mid 20's.
I agree l, it's unconventional and makes me a little uncomfortable. But, at the same time 26 is not a child, I knew what I was doing at that age 😁
I'm under no illusion. I think I'm just enjoying the attention tbh.

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StarlightLady · 13/10/2023 12:20

OP, I'm slightly older than you and I've done it. He was slightly younger. It was fun, no scars left behind and no laws were broken.

IwinUlose · 13/10/2023 14:36

I find big age gaps gross, there is usually some daddy/mommy issue at play. The dynamics just don't sit right with me.

Catsafterme · 13/10/2023 14:43

Everyone has their own views, some are happy with age differences and others aren't. You're both adults, what does it matter, really.

Doesn't mean there's a complex going on, some people just like one another and age doesn't matter as much as it does to others.

Tutufruiti29 · 13/10/2023 15:29

Why would marriage and babies be mentioned in this way? People have babies in their 40s?

StarlightLady · 13/10/2023 16:25

The OP has said that she knows it's not going to be a serious relationship or anything like that, if she had said that she was looking for marriage and babies some posters may well have answews quite differently.

It seems that she is looking for friendship, sex and a little fun together. There's nothing wrong in that.

Pockettopic · 13/10/2023 22:40

Part of me says go for it but I don’t think I could! I’m single and have been contacted by a few younger guys but get the impression they like the idea of a cougar! But you could have a great time but would the difference be to huge!

Redlarge · 13/10/2023 22:43

Absolutely 💯 go for it. Sounds fun.

Coffeepot72 · 13/10/2023 22:46

What two consenting adults do in private …

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missipp · 13/10/2023 23:22

Pockettopic · 13/10/2023 22:40

Part of me says go for it but I don’t think I could! I’m single and have been contacted by a few younger guys but get the impression they like the idea of a cougar! But you could have a great time but would the difference be to huge!

I hear you on that. There is definitely something to be said about younger men wanting a cougar! There is no harm really if you're both open to it. You should go for it too!
It probably helps that I do look so much younger than my age so I'm often approached by younger men but I've never gone there... yet!

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AlfredaTheGrape · 14/10/2023 00:56

Yep.

GemmaFoster · 14/10/2023 04:34

Go for it. I’ve been seeing someone for 6months who told me he was late 30s, he assumed I was mid 40s. Turns out there is actually 20 years between us. I can’t see the relationship going anywhere, longer term, but I find him very manly & warm & we have a lot of fun. We’d been flirting for a year before anything happened, he was keener than I was, as I thought he was too young, and that’s before I discovered his real age. If it works for you both then carry on & enjoy!

Lonesomefetter · 14/10/2023 04:40

It won't end well.

Basilton · 14/10/2023 06:07

UtterlyButterly2048 · 13/10/2023 05:44

No one would bat an eyelid at a 26 yr old woman with a 38 yr old man! So yes, go for it, why not? You are both adults, see where it goes.

Lots of people would bat eyelids at that.

Chuffaluffa · 14/10/2023 06:12

My parents married when he was 19 and she was 28, she’s now mid 70s and they still adore each other - they’ve given me a very cavalier approach to age in relationships- if you get on, nothing else matters!

giadaros · 14/10/2023 06:59

I'm 40 and my husband is 30. We have only been married a short while but have been together for 9 years. I certainly didn't intend for it to get this far, but when it's right...

Summerslimtime · 14/10/2023 06:59

I'd have a go on him but leave it at that 😂

GemmaFoster · 14/10/2023 07:30

@Lonesomefetter does any relationship end well ?

Spidersfreakmeout · 14/10/2023 08:04

Been together for nearly 20 years, exactly the same age gap and met at the same ages. FWIW I def look same age to him so no one even realises unless we say. Certainly no Mummy/daddy issues ffs 🙄!
I’d have fun, ignore the dissenters.

gloriawasright · 14/10/2023 08:28

lorrainlorr · 12/10/2023 22:31

Nearly 40 and mid 20s just no! It's distasteful and I'd say the same about a man nearly 40.

You rounded her age up yet rounded his down.
She is 38 he is 26 no need to add or subtract years.
Op go for it ,the gap is nothing .

NegativNancy · 14/10/2023 08:34

So many on here blindly dismissing the possibility that this could last! I'm 39 and my fiance is 25. Been together 5 years and every day is happiness. The thought people might find us distasteful is laughable.
Go for it, OP. It might be something or nothing but don't pass by an opportunity because of baseless worries about what others think.

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