If you don't have a lot of sex in your relationship...

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How do you feel watching TV shows or films with your partner that contain a lot of sex or 'romance'?

It makes me really uncomfortable to know that he will find those women physically attractive but not so much me or wil be enjoying watching the sex scenes but have no interest in sex with me. I've started leaving the room to make a drink, have a shower or even going to bed early to avoid it.

I feel like I'm being mocked tbh and it just makes me feel ugly and unattractive.

I don't have any sex (not my choice) and I would feel really uncomfortable watching sex scenes. Also pretty angry and bitter.

Same. It's just sad. I know he masturbates too. Denies porn. I've no advice. Solidarity.

It really doesn’t bother me, although it’s not like we seek out films or programmes with lots of sex.

We are very romantic and tactile though and I don’t feel unattractive, so maybe that’s the difference

He's not not tactile.or affectionate. He just doesn't seem to be interested in sex with me.

We don't watch anything together that contains any sex at all now because I just found it too upsetting. I just make sire I suggest stuff that doesn't have sex in it or make excuses to not watch stuff with sex in.

I can see when I open up prime what he has been watching though amd a lot not all) of it has a lot of sex in. Some doesn't. I don't think that's why he's watching that stuff specifically but he's also realised not to suggest that stuff to me. So he watches it on his own.

I wonder how often he's turned on by it, has a wank and how much that contributes to his lack of interest in me?

Sorry to hear that you partner’s behaviour makes you feel unattractive and bad about yourself.

Have you had a conversation about the lack of sex? If so then what does he say about it?

Some people have low sex drives, or medical conditions or lose the desire to have sex when stressed etc. There are so many reasons that he might not want it other than he’s not interested in you.

If you don’t talk about it, your assumptions will eat you up inside and destroy your relationship.

Good luck OP x

Maybe he’s noticed you seem not to like sex scenes, so he’s watching the programmes alone out of consideration for your feelings?

I'm in an affection less marriage and don't watch TV anymore due to this. It isn't sex scenes alone, it's anything involving couples, flirting etc. Which is pretty much everything!

Try and communicate and sort it out or get out. Don't be like me.

I think that's the case. Which I appreciate I suppose. But it doesn't address the issue of the lack of sex between us!

It makes me feel a bit like he doesn't need sex with me because he gets turned on and has a wank. I don't know that he does but he gets home from work a few hours before me and the house is empty. So it's possible.

I'm.already there tbh.

I left a sexless relationship and I'm now having the best sex of my life.