Husband Facebook friend with ex

[FrankieLD]

Husband has secretly become Facebook friends with his ex wife. I found out accidentally after a message from her popped up on his feed when he was showing me something. I ignored it. He had told me she had sent him a friends request but didn’t mention it again and I didn’t think any more of it. Now I don’t know what to think. I used to be able to see his fb friends but this is now private.

Do they have DC's together? Not so strange if so. FB friends - so what, springs to mind? Not important.

I wouldn’t worry about that in its own. Do you have any other concerns about their relationship ?

Unless they ended amicably and are good friends IRL, then it is a bit odd, yes. I have a good relationship with my ex (have dc together) but we are not facebook friends. have no interest in seeing posts about his personal life nor him mine. It would just be a bit weird. But we get on fine in real life.

The fact he hasn't told you is a little odd too. Why not just ask him? He told you she sent a friend request so just casually ask if he deleted it yet. Or accepted it. And see what he says.
If he lies and says he deleted it, then i'd be telling him you know thats a lie and that you want to see his friends list. See what other exes he has on there!

Or just start tagging him into loads of your posts together.

Your husband setting things to private definitely raises a red flag imo.

I mean, I'm Facebook friends with several of my exes (ex-boyfriends/partners, I mean; I've only ever been married to dh). Dh and I even went to one's wedding and dh is friends on Facebook with his wife too. There is nothing funny going on with any of them and it's not a big deal. Do they have shared children? I think it's relatively normal to keep exes on social media in this case; most of my friends have their exes as friends on social media when they have children together, even the ones who didn't end massively amicably. The friends list being private might be odd, but maybe he didn't want you snooping through other friends for whatever reason, or maybe he didn't want ex-wife snooping around for your profile either. It's hard to say that automatically means something sinister.