The scenario is:
Male/ female couple together 2 years but live separately. Her mortgage has jumped up so high she has had to rent out a room to a lodger. Lodger is lovely but its been a huge disruption moving all bedrooms in the house around. Reason for this is lodger has got main bedroom that previously belonged to homeowner. One child has moved out so child 2 has moved into his bedroom.
So after a lovely evening together female says in passing that she is going to finish sorting out her bedroom at the weekend. Male says dont be ridiculous that would have only taken you an hour. Female then ecplains that its been a massive job, her whole life was in the original room, photo albums, paperwork for her business etc. She said she sorted through her stuff and childrens stuff to fit into new rooms and has been to the tip and clothing bank several times. He laughs at her and tells her not to be ridiculous and says it would have taken him an hr. She starts to become tearful and reminds him that she nearly lost her house due to morthgage rise so despite the lodger being nice its still been stressful and a big upheaval and lots of work. He said dont be silly you could have done it yesterday when you were working from home. She says she couldnt as she has been flat out with work lately. Sometimes she does get downtime at work but not at the moment. He repeats not to be silly and that she isnt busy at work.
After going round in circles he asks if she wants a hug but she says no not while we are arguing. As it continued she walked out and went home so as not to escalate things. She then apologised for walking out as she isnt sure if it was the right thing to do or not. He hasnt apologised and thinks they need to agree to disagree.
My question is, is this just a silly argument or is that gaslighting telling her she is not busy at work when she is and telling her she is being silly and it wasnt stressful and it would take an hour when she knows this is not true as it took several days and isnt quite finished.