I was sat next to my boyfriend of two years at a family meal for his 60th birthday. As a party of 14 we were all around the table having a lovely time. His eldest son asked him what had been some of his hi lights of the last 60 years - without hesitation he reeled off the date he got marrying his late first wife - Nothing further was said, It would have been nice if there had been a little nod to our relationship, but no just crickets and a few sympathetic looks from a few of his family members. AIBU to feel hurt and slightly humiliated by this public display of who comes first in his eyes. He says he loves me (never publicly) we both agree we dont want marriage and for the most part we’re happy. We are both 60 and I feel lucky to have met such a lovely bloke this late in life. I too have been married and have grown up children. This isn’t the first time he’s made me feel this way, but it was probably the most public. For context My boyfriend’s first wife died 15 years ago, their children were teenagers at the time. He married again a few years later and that marriage ended in divorce.