Long distance, First meet

[TwoBranch451]

Apologies if this is a lot of information to sift through.
So first a little background information. I was previously in an abusive and controlling long distance relationship for 2 years, there was an incident that caused my family to intervene and get me out of it.
After that I was kinda lost and didn't know what to do, it was a big chunk of my life. I took to trying to distract myself with video games, joined a Facebook group for female gamers, just looking to make some friends to play with and keep me distracted.
After a few weeks I messaged the group chat asking if anyone was on to play, i got a reply from a girl who I had previously played one game with so i recognised her name. We played for a couple hours then went our separate ways.
I private messaged her the next day, just to say thanks for playing and distracting me for a while. I didn't expect anything back, but she replied and we ended up making plans to play again that night. From there things progressed fast. We were messaging each other every day, playing most nights, and I found myself looking forward to spending time with her and I got so excited whenever she messaged me. There was definite flirting very quickly but neither of us said much about it. I had just gotten out of a big relationship and she was kinda dealing with some other girl ghosting her. So neither of us were looking for anything romantically, just friends.
But things were definitely escalating and I knew I was getting feelings for her, which is not something I had ever really felt before. One weekend we planned to have a drink, play some games, and give each other silly challenges. At the end of the night we went to bed but were still messaging and she worked up the courage to tell me that she liked me, so I told her I liked her too.
Neither of us wanted to take anything too fast because of the whole situation, but everything just developed so naturally and we were content.
We made things official a month ago even though we've been talking for longer. And we made half plans to meet up in January when she comes back to Scotland to see her family.
However, sadly, last week her dad killed himself, which has sped up the timeline a bit, in terms of her coming home and we have arranged to meet up on the 19th, which just so happens to be date night.
I want to do something special but am very limited in terms of having to do something at home because I have my son too.
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
It is also worth mentioning that I have never been with another girl before, in any way, so I am super nervous about that too. I know there is no pressure or expectation from her but I just know that I want to make the most of this meeting as it will be a few months until we can see each other in person again.

I wouldn't invite her to your home upon first meet. You need to be sensible and responsible. Can you arrange a baby sitter for a few hours and go for a casual drink?

It’s the first time you’ll have met each other, and in painful circumstances. Don’t even think of it as a potentially sexual relationship. If she still wants to meet, just make it a quiet evening getting to know each other. I hope it all goes well.

Please do not invite her over to your house for a first meet-up alone with your child. It sounds like you are potentially quite stuck for childcare, but I wouldn't meet anyone - even a female friend - for the first time at my house alone with my kids. Hopefully she is who she says she is, but what if she isn't? What if she brings a 'male friend' with her? Would you let them both in?

If you are truly stuck for childcare, then make plans to meet at a playground or a cafe, or arrange for your son to visit a friend for a few hours and meet somewhere out that is less child-friendly.

It's probably obvious, but I would also just be cautious as she is likely to not be in a good place right now. The loss of a parent is a big thing; the loss of a parent by suicide even more overwhelming. So just go cautiously with anything right now.

"19th which happens to be date night"

What do you mean by this ?

Just take it slowly
You are also long distance

I think it’s interesting that you have posted this Q here.

If you were feeling safe, comfortable and confident I doubt you would ask - but there is likely something in your subconscious or gut that you are not aware of that is concerning you.

Every PP has said - DO NOT HAVE A FIRST MEET IN YOUR HOME.

Arrange to meet in a public place.

Also as others have said the tragic circumstances are not conducive to romance.

How sure are you that this person is who they say they are and that their parent has even died? Sorry if you think that’s a blunt question but it’s for your own safety.

She’s coming home in grief - I would meet up like that - don’t back off and give her space and then maybe have a coffee over zoom with your child etc

Thanks for the messages and concern.
I have no childcare options. Drinks are completely out of the question.
We video call every day, and have included my son a few times too, as well as played games with him. I have also had a short chat with her sister on Facebook.
I also lost a friend to suicide 2 days later, so we have kinda had to lean on each other a lot this week.
My question was related to what we can do for an at home date night. Not that I was worried. I have thought this through, a lot. I am definitely an overthinker. She has also said many times that she would happily get a hotel, though i feel it's too late to expect that now.

Stop involving your child in your dates for goodness sake.

Definitely am not involving him on dates. He is in bed before any date night begins. I was merely clarifying that he has spoken to and seen this girl before.

Do not be irresponsible and have the date take place at your home.