Husband outburst

[MariaL40]

Im getting help from women’s aid but in the meantime there was an incident tonight.
‘Husband was watching tv downstairs I was in the bedroom watching the iPad . Anyway about 30 minutes ago he comes up so I switched the volume down so much I was reading the subtitles. He demands I switch it off or the iPad will go flying. Anyway he forcibly grabs it off le in the process ripping out the charger, hurt my hand and it knocked my stomach. I lay there shocked and he said that was bound to happen.
i got up took my pillow and now I’m on the couch sore and so upset while he has fallen asleep. To top it off I’m sick and needed a good nights rest

That's awful - I have a horrible feeling this is not out of character, from the fact you turned it right down just because he came upstairs. I'm glad you're getting help from Women's Aid, but do you want some specific advice about this incident, or just to vent? Either is fine.

What help are you getting from WA? You need to leave him. Tonight if you can.

Ive contacted à lawyer women’s aid have given me a lot of emotional support so far.
‘My sons are now being very rude/disrespectful towards me and I’m being made out to be the problem.
‘I feel so upset

If I have a glass of Prosecco I’m told I have a drink problem (he’s even said in front of my older son I might be hiding bottles of alcohol) 😞
he says I’m having affairs, highly critical of Everything. Im not eating that shit, loads of other examples all of this in front of the children

do you go out to work? if everyone is in bed I would throw some clothes in a bag, book a hotel and just vanish, taking any bank statements and passport and cash with you. go see a solicitor in the morning.

Can you get out asap

Like in the next day or so?

Have the bastard removed

This is no way to live

Please stay working with women's aid they helped me so much

Got great advice on here also

I can’t leave that easily I’ve been told (I don’t live in the uk) not to leave the marital home.
im just finding all this very difficult to cope with.

He's gaslighting you, @MariaL40, and also involving your DCs.
It's time to get out. There is nothing that you can do to fix this, other than distance yourself from it.

Who told you not to leave the marital home? And why? I don’t see how you can possibly stay there, it’s not safe for you.

You need some professional support/counselling to help you work through leaving. His behaviours are all because he wants a reaction he can blame on you. Read about reactive abuse - he's pushing all of your buttons. How old are you sons OP?

Difficult to know what to advise if you’re not in the UK regarding getting the police involved etc..
Are you British, you and kids have passports? Can you return to UK without telling your husband ?
He’s doing huge harm to the children by his gaslighting of you.
I fully agree with pp and he’s trying to get reactions from you so he can blame you. I think you have to get away, with your children, to a safe place as soon as you can.

who has told you that you cannot leave the marital home?? no matter what country you live in, you have that right!!!! just say you are going shopping and away you go if you are that frightened. obviously make sure you have transport arranged and somewhere to go.

where I live I would need to file a complaint at the police station before leaving the marital home otherwise it’s seen as I’m abandoning the home/children.
Im not ready to file a complaint yet it’s a huge step

sorry but this is not clear! are you talking about an arab country??

No not an Arab country

When you are ready you will go. Keep the counselling and get yourself organised. Your sons will eventually see what has been happening. Just carry on as you always have