Going out

[MadaboutFridays]

Does anyone else find girlie get togethers stressful? I go because I don't want people to think I am anti-social but I really don't like them. I get stressed and anxious about going, standing in over-crowded bars for drinks that cost an earth and worrying about money!. Am I boring that I would prefer a coffee and catch-up rather that expensive get togethers. I am scared I will end up with no friends if I don't go but the anxiety I feel about going is off the scale! I know its not really a third world problem but surely I am not alone! Maybe I have got to an age where its just a hassle!

No you're not miserable. I also like to do something casual like coffee or a nice little meal and a glass of wine and end the night there whereas my friends are still in their partying phase even at 30years old and I honestly couldn't think of anything worse 🫣

Do you ever suggest something more low key? Where are these friends from? If you met at the partying age it can be hard to transition but at 40 we prefer to spend money on a few nights accomodation and then stay in and spend time together. School Run Mums more likely to be the local pub forl inch and a few cocktails. Basically much more relaxed .

Suggest something different.

I rarely go to anywhere crowded as a night out!
I go out quite a lot but I guess the friends I mix with are all quite similar to me, we’d rather go to a pub to sit down and talk with a few drinks, or a cocktail bar with a prebooked table, or a restaurant.
If someone organised a night out to somewhere busy I’d still go but it wouldn’t be my first choice.
Could you suggest the next meet-up at somewhere that suits you better? Just for a change of scene? You never know; some of the others might decide they prefer it although obviously they might not!

Good suggestions so far. I think the issue is probably more me because I am a people pleaser and don't want to say no. I think I felt it more this weekend because of the cost and the fact that I was tired, menopausal and grumpy! Maybe I have just got to the age where a coffee and catch-up in the local garden centre is preferable to standing in bars spending a fortune! Just scared of saying no tbh!