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I had to block him- please keep me strong and reassure me it's for the best

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FrancisSeaton · 08/10/2023 23:55

So the ex messages some time last week. I've never really got over him and we've been on and off for some years. He wants to talk, meet up again try again. So sincere and apologetic. We talk for several days on the trot and arrange to meet soon. And come today....virtual silence. The odd Luke warm comment in response to me making the effort. FWIW the reason we split was his inconsistency and lack of making me feel he gave a shit . This was again discussed last week when he reached out to me.
He's not interested is he? I had to block didn't i?

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truthhurts23 · 08/10/2023 23:57

It sounds like he wants sex sorry OP, I think you did the right thing blocking, if you want something more than sex

TwilightSkies · 08/10/2023 23:58

Yes block! Break the cycle!

AtrociousCircumstance · 09/10/2023 00:00

Yes he’s just proving himself as inconsistent and unreliable as before. Sounds painful. Hop off the pointless merry go round of broken promises.

Original poster
FrancisSeaton · 09/10/2023 00:03

AtrociousCircumstance · 09/10/2023 00:00

Yes he’s just proving himself as inconsistent and unreliable as before. Sounds painful. Hop off the pointless merry go round of broken promises.

It really is painful and just reinforces his view that I am his entertainment and nowt else

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FrancisSeaton · 09/10/2023 08:09

Ahhh talk some sense into me I'm so tempted to unblock and message him saying wtf was he thinking? But then that just shows him he can walk all over me! And he knows exactly what he's thinking doesn't he?

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ChaToilLeam · 09/10/2023 08:10

Just block and stay blocked!

Takeabreather23 · 09/10/2023 08:25

He came for attention got it and did how usual and left.
He’s a dick ! Block delete number and never ever reply to him again.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 09/10/2023 08:40

If you dont block the cycle will never ever end

tothelefttotheleft · 09/10/2023 08:44

Block him. Every time you give him physical mental and emotional space it stops you from moving on and the possibility of meeting someone who treats you well.

RaisedByHedgehogs · 09/10/2023 08:53

Sadly, this is a common tactic. Drop some breadcrumbs, just to see if you bite. Once they know you will, they’ve had their validation and can back off again, knowing you’re still there.

You sound like you are being brave and strong blocking him. It is so hard! I drove myself mad wanting an explanation, wanting to understand. Since I blocked (and he’s tried other routes to get in touch, including getting his mum to send me a message…) I’ve felt more peaceful. Peace is lovely.

Good luck to you. Try to be gentle with yourself, especially if you cave. It’s ok. Just get back on the block-horse and canter on.

Lavenderosa · 09/10/2023 09:47

It sounds like you're just one of his back-up plans for when he hasn't got a 'better' option. You're worth much more than that so keep him blocked. He doesn't deserve a second of your time.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 09/10/2023 12:54

Btw he might well like you

however if he’s emotionally unavailable and always has been this is unlikely to change
ever !
or he’s using you to make his ego swell

either way your in a hiding to nothing

Aquamarine1029 · 09/10/2023 12:57

FWIW the reason we split was his inconsistency and lack of making me feel he gave a shit.

You're your own worst enemy, op. Why do you keep doing this to yourself? He didn't get a shag fast enough so he's on to other things, but if you keep allowing him to fuck you around like this, he'll be back for another go.

The only one who can get you off this absurd merry-go-round to nowhere is you.

Mmhmmn · 09/10/2023 13:09

Block the idiot on all forms of communication
Maybe do a little voodoo doll ceremony for closure
Then cut it up with scissors / burn it in the sink and move on
He deserves zero of your future or headspace

Original poster
FrancisSeaton · 09/10/2023 13:16

You're all absolutely right
And he's still blocked....

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Namechange666 · 09/10/2023 13:25

Ask yourself why do you feel desperate for this man?

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FrancisSeaton · 09/10/2023 15:21

Namechange666 · 09/10/2023 13:25

Ask yourself why do you feel desperate for this man?

I just genuinely loved him

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Bone11 · 09/10/2023 16:35

Does he genuinely love you? Surely you deserve someone that does.

SofiYol · 09/10/2023 16:42

Keep him blocked. Silence is your power.

Do not give him the satisfaction of calling him out hoping he’ll realise and act right, he won’t. This is who he is. It’s not your failing, it’s not something you can change.

If you unblock him you’ll still be in the same cycle a year from now.

Bollindger · 09/10/2023 16:50

You love who he might have been not who he is.
Because you cared like this he sees you as a booty call when he wants his ego rubbing.
Now see that if you can love someone like this then you just need to find a real man worthy of being loved.
Change his name to Dickhead, or something else that reminds you who he is, and instead of answering him , post here so we can all laugh at him with you....

ScabbyHorse · 09/10/2023 17:23

He's making sure you don't get to have sex with anyone else perhaps

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