Money budgeting and partner 😞

[Summerberry22]

So I’m starting to feel really really depressed these last few months as my money keeps running out like 2 weeks before my next payday which is ridiculous then I’m having to live off my partners money them last few weeks . Now what I am realising is like I’ve opened my eyes a bit this month and I am realising like whenever he runs out of money he’s living off mine and vice Versa and last month he had said to me when October comes I can’t be affording too pay for both of us to smoke as I need to save myself and telling me I need to budget my money and do this that with it too budget .

i have budgeted my money and wrote out what I’m spending what on and here I am spending money on cigarettes for us both to smoke and I don’t even smoke as much as he does , he’s a chainsmoker and I’m not so I’m having to spend so much money and this is the reason why I run out of money ! I said to him I’m just going to get tobacco to be honest because this is stupid and he goes to me oh I don’t smoke tobacco ! I was able to budget much better when he was not at my home and even when he had done stay away jobs I was able too budget and my mind was on cleaning my home more I was able to clean and now I just don’t clean and I have 2 kids just fed up 😔

what would you do in this situation ? I have no idea why he is like this ,

Get rid of the partner. Easy.

Get rid of him, why are you spending money for your kids on cigarettes for him? What is he contributing to your life?

Hi op I'm on uc at the moment as had to stop working due to my little girl having a skull condition myself and my partner claim together but I give him his money he puts it away and I pay all bills food everything for the 2 children I run out off money and have to use his but on pay day I have to pay him back I would hate to find out how much money he as stored away get rid off him or buy for yourself and children

you should go back and read what you just wrote while trying to pretend it was written by someone else.

then at the very least you should create a weekly budget for luxuries that still leaves you plenty of room for necessities and a bit of a buffer for the unexpected. Then don’t go over that luxury budget under any circumstances. If you are running out of money frequently, it should be very, very small.

If you're running out of money half way through the month, you can't afford to be smoking so obviously you could quit that and you'd be significantly better off. I'd ditch the dead weight too.

Get rid of the cigs, and get rid of the bloke. Not necessarily in that order, but your life will be much better for it.