Help when ill

[BlastedPimples]

My dcs are 18, 16, 14 and 11.

I've been ill in bed for three days. Slightly better today. Maybe ok tomorrow.

I literally could not move with shivers, shakes and chills and pain for the first two days.

Every day the kitchen has been a total mess. I have cleaned it and hopped back into bed feeling atrocious.

The dogs haven't been walked.

Skid marks in the toilets.

My dad says I always ask her to do stuff and it's sexist and even if I was dying of cancer she wouldn't help if she felt my dss weren't doing their fair share. She does bugger all by the way. She's 16.

I ask and ask for help and they say later later. Nothing happens.

I just lost it and send them all a text saying how disappointed I am in them.

I really truly deeply am. They've shown themselves to be entitled, lazy, uncaring people. I'm so upset. I've done such a shit job of bringing them up. I thought we were a family, a team. We are so not.

I must never be ill again. I'm just so upset.

They've shown themselves to be entitled, lazy, uncaring people.

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So it stops here then.

The running around, the extra mile, the treats.

You have my sympathy 💐

I am so sorry l so hope you are feeling much better. They will shift themselves now and do the stuff that needs doing you will see 💐

This doesn't look like a zombie thread to me, the OP was only a matter of minutes ago.

No. They won't. They will simply treat me as if I am mad to have objected.

My dd thinks I am utterly unreasonable because I won't shell out €300 for her to go on a weekend jolly with her friend's family abroad. I'm in the middle of a divorce, strapped for cash and she thinks I say no because I am jealous.

I just want to be well again. So sick of looking at things mounting up, trying to tackle them, feeling atrocious and having to go back to bed.

Insist the dogs get walked. They go in pairs so two do morning walk, two do evening. Then it's fair.

Stop cleaning. They won't think you are ill if you are fucking cleaning. Just stop.

Once better stop looking after them. They can do their own laundry. Only cook for those who will wash up afterwards. They leave their stuff around chuck it into a big box behind the sofa/cupboard. After a month it goes in the bin.

Nobody repects a person who doesn't respect themselves.

I hope you feel better soon

Many moons ago when my son was a teenager, he used to do the leaving of wet towels on the bathroom floor. After many attempts of asking him to just hang them up or put them in the washing basket, I got fed up and started putting them in his bed- childish, but it worked 😅