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Please help. I am being told I’m making this up and creating a false narrative to ‘feed the children’ and turn them against him. Husband got annoyed about something and went on about it repeatedly, I asked him multiple times to please stop, shouting and swore once. I said please stop now and go through and watch the rugby in the other room, switched off the tv and put it behind my back. He refused and said no, put the tv on and I said no, I asked you multiple times to stop. The children and I would like to watch the rugby in peace without this continuing. He got up to remove it from behind me throwing cushions out of the way and shoving me to find it. All of the children jumped on him, I think they were totally bemused as to what was going on. He flung them all off, forcefully removed the remote and stormed off. I sat in disbelief trying to make sense of it all. My eldest said mummy that isn’t right, the police would take him away for that he hurt us all. I consoled her/them, validating their feelings while in shock and playing it over in my head.
He then texted me to say I am listening, stop filling the children’s heads with lies. We then exchanged messages where I called out his behaviour and he is completely denying and claiming it is all rubbish, everyone jumped on him, he defended himself and I’m ‘creating a false narrative’ and it’s parental alienation.
This is the more worrying part and he will try and insist the same to the children despite them all witnessing what happened.
For back story, there is a long pattern of things always being my fault and never his and very poor impulse control on his part. I have massive problems with him railing off screeds of emails/text messages complaining to people about children’s activities, school etc and he doesn’t seem to have a filter/know when to stop. Over the last year I’ve noticed him less able to control behaviour and flying off the handle at me/random situations/the children.
He has definitely crossed a line tonight and I don’t think we can turn back from here. I’ve always sheltered the children from it but I am so sad they have been part of this.
Any advice or opinions? I want to ask him to leave and access some counselling/medical help. This is tricky as he is certain he’s done nothing wrong. I can’t quite work out if he genuinely thinks this and doesn’t comprehend what he did or he is trying to make me doubt myself.