I'm bored in my relationship-thinking about other people,is this it?

[navypaintd]

I'm 38 and been with my partner for 3 years.
We are engaged and have just bought a house together.
I love him but I'm bored
I don't fancy him anymore at all
He goes to sleep every night at 8pm
Tonight we are lying in bed and his been asleep for hours.
He has no personal hygiene anymore and all he wants to do is watch football.
I miss the feeling of excitement of meeting someone and really fancying them
The excitement when they text

Is this my life forever ?
I'm never getting that feeling again am I.
I love my partner but he makes no effort

Run !

He might feel the same?

For whatever reason he must have changed dramatically since you met him otherwise why buy a house and agree to marry?

Lying on the sofa all day, sleeping a lot and stopping personal care are all signs of illness or depression.

Talk to him and tell him how you feel.

Do not get married! It won't get any better and you're far too young to settle for this for life.

I assume the hygiene wasn't always the case but was always like that, going bed early and watching football?

I can see how that would get boring, I guess you're spending most evenings on your own if it's consistent?

I'm feeling lonely with lack of affection and feeling wanted I think
I miss someone being attracted to me
I think I'm decent looking
Make a effort ,dress nice ,go to the gym etc
I get more attention from strangers walking to work than my partner -it makes me sad

Yeah, I get that.

I know relationships can kind of simmer down after a while, not sure if this is early for that or not.

If he was to take care of himself and show you affection would you still want him and are you able to discuss your needs with him at all?

This relationship sounds dreadful. You are allowed to end it for any reason, why would you stay with this boring slob?

I'm honestly just not sure what I want
I find myself looking at other people and being attracted to them but I do love my partner -I just don't fancy him.
Maybe that would change if he made a effort etc
I don't know

You can decide to call off the wedding and separate for any reason you wish.

However, Unless you want a string of short relationships (some people do) then chasing the buzz of a new relationship- being excited that they text etc is unrealistic in a LTR.

Decide what you want, talk to him, get to the bottom of his change in behaviour and go from there, instead of fantasising about texting other people.

Him making no effort with personal hygiene isn’t negotiable really. I’m assuming he wasn’t like this when you were dating, buying a house, planning to marry?
Nobody wants to sleep with a man that hasn’t washed for days, with bad breath and cheesy balls so I understand why you’re completely turned off!
What’s changed since you met 3 years ago?

The rest- You don’t have to be a passenger in your own life- you don’t have to rely on a partner to entertain you and provide a social life. It’s possible and healthy to have a social life/ hobbies/interests separate from your husband’s.

He sounds depressed- no offence but maybe he feels exactly the same as you do.
You really need to talk to each other to find out what's going on.

I thought you were going to say you had been together for decades. Three years is not a long time, way too early to be bored and lose attraction. I don’t think it’ll get any better - only worse. Get out while you can!

I think the fact that you don't fancy him is worrying. You really should end it . It's not fair on him that he is with someone who do not fancy him .Would you like to be with someone who didn't fancy you ? I know you say you still love him but it sounds like your not in love .. It's also worrying that he doesn't give you much attention. Things will not get better only worse ..