Should I kick him out

[Poosiesmum]

I’m at my wits end and don’t know what to do.
i don’t think I particularly like my “other half” I certainly don’t love him. We have just had a second child and he does literally nothing. When ever I take the kids out for a few hours I find the house in the same state I left it in and he’s drunk. He has a huge amount of debt which is getting to bailiff stage and I’m sick of it all.
I often think it would be easier single. But then I can’t see how financially I would do it. Would I get any help from the council? I’m on mat leave for another 10 months and have no savings trying to keep us afloat.
Im already struggling with my MH and have been for years. Which I think is the main reason I’ve ended up with a loveless relationship. I was pushing the big 30 and desperately seeking affection and a child.
I feel sad for my kids being bought up in a house with no love and just resentment.
I’m stuck in a rut and just don’t know what to do. 😞

This is hard to respond to as you have described an alcoholic bankrupt, so if that's accurate, you'd be better off without him. But you sound like you've just had a baby, so might be in a vulnerable state. Do you have a friend you can confide in? And could you ask him to leave, if that is what you want.

Counselling, debt advice, benefits check.

If you left him and took the DC then the council would have to find you some accommodation. Which might be a flat if you are very lucky but it could also be a hostel or somewhere a long way away from where you currently live. But your DP seems to be pretty useless and - understandably - you are not in love. Time to move on I guess.

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