This is an OLD one.
Had a date with a guy. Similar interests, similar stages in life, attractive. Got me excited about dating again.
I didn't hear anything after the date about meeting up again, I was the one to message him the day after asking if he was up for a second date. He said yes.
Some texting back and forth but mostly initiated by me. We both were busy for a little bit. In the end we settled for a date 2 weeks after the first. We spoke about this 3 days before said date. We organised what we're going to do etc, he just had to get back to me with a time he'd be free that day as he was busy in the evening.
Didn't hear from him the next day, the day after. I kept my day free when we were supposed to meet up. He didn't message me and we didn't meet up. A few days after he dropped me a message asking how I was doing. I asked him what happened about our date. He apologised profusely saying he's had such a hectic time recently it slipped his mind to get back to me. Was saying all the right things. Apologised and insisted he was interested and asked to meet up the following weekend.
As much as I fancied him and wanted to go on a second date, I said no. Mainly because I felt like I was into it more than him and he wasn't that interested. He said he didn't want to message me too much as he thought he'd appear too full on and turn me off. I thought actions speak louder than words.
So, we didn't go on a second date. I've been on a couple more first dates since and they've been pretty shit.
I'm wondering if I was too harsh on the first guy.
Thoughts?