Ex Husband and the new woman….

[Stillstrugglingon]

During divorce proceedings ExH established a new relationship - my two teenage DC and I only discovered this when it was announced on Facebook and the news got back to us.

Theyve been together around 9 months now and seem pretty serious - holidays together, photos all over social media of her and his family, he’s met her children etc - yet still no mention of her at all to our boys. He knows they know but it’s like the elephant in the room.

I know he likes to compartmentalise but I find this odd. I know it’s none of my business but I want to prepare the boys for any sudden expectation of meeting her. Ex and I are no longer on speaking terms. Am I overthinking this and just being more involved than what I should be?!

At least he has them alone and they get his attention

You don't need to "prepare" them

As you say, they know and he knows they know. And he'll pick his moment, and one hopes that he will do it well.

But there's nothing whatsoever you can do to "prepare" the DC.

You do need to prepare yourself though. So you can be calm and mildly interested on the day the DC come home and say they've met her.

Listen to them, rather than do anything.