Can’t cope with this

[lurker1000]

How do you get through the heartbreak - I’ve posted before. My husband is leaving, he’s got a flat, been furnishing it and I expect he will go this weekend.

I literally can’t cope - I feel so pathetic but I’m absolutely devastated (he’s leaving because of me apparently - I didn’t share my inheritance - he has a gambling history - one year clean, I’ve put away for my kids) but he’s so so cold. He’s literally cut me out his life.

My family and a few friends now know and are firmly of the opinion that he is out of order and he has to go now but I just want to try anything to make it work. How bloody pathetic, I know. But the decision is out my hands.

I don’t know why I’m posting - I’m just broken and don’t know how I get through this. I can barely catch my breath and I’m trying to work and look after kids etc - he’s not paying anything as all money going to new flat so I can’t lose my job!

You're well rid of him. I recall your last post about him. You need to find your anger about this, and get the CM claim in too.

Couldn't agree more.

I remember reading your other thread. You are being brave and resolute and strong! Your life will be better without him. It will just take time for you to work through the sadness for what should have been. Lean on your family and friends and the women here.

Sweetheart, he's blaming you for HIS problem. Look forwards, don't pay any attention to him.

He's leaving you because you put your inheritance away for your children?

I haven't seen your other thread but I think in time you will look back at this point and thank God he got rid of himself.

You and your children deserve better, don't waste tears on him because he clearly only cares about himself.

Make sure he does pay for his children, put that claim in ASAP.

Well said, I would say use the anger, stress and other emotions and plough them in to actions and keep you going. When thoughts come push them away. And no he doesn't get to just not pay anything because he has a new place, he has to pay for his children!!

Don't waste your tears on this man, I read your previous thread, there is nothing positive he brings to your life.
Be glad he's going!!

I suspect he was going to call it a day and was hanging in for the inheritance.

maybe you need to be angry with him before acceptance which is next, you still seem to be at denial stage, then screw the bastard for what is rightfully your children’s upkeep and move on.

life is 100% worth living, you will 100% get over this. I promise.

Shock, Denial, Anger, Acceptance. You will work through these stages. You will have a happy life and look back and think “WTF”.

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Oh man - he’s still here but taking things every day to his flat. I’ve asked him several times to just go as it’s not fair to be dragging this out.

I can’t kick him out as home half is but I’m feeling beyond worse. I cannot breathe and can’t stop crying - trying not to let him see me like that but it’s just torture. He was around on Saturday. Then our all day Sunday so it’s not consistent.

I feel like I’m on the edge of a cliff and he needs to go and I’m going to fall apart. Please don’t think I’m pathetic but it is literally the last thing I saw coming. Guess I just need a hand hold. My heart is breaking - when does it get easier??? Please, please tell me it does????

I just can’t believe someone you were so unbelievably close to could change so much.