How do you turn it around? Can you?!

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I am just total roommates with my husband. We occasionally peck on the lips good night but not daily, we can go days without any physical contact, we don't hug or kiss and haven't had sex in a long time. We don't cuddle on the sofa. There is no intimacy whatsoever. We've only been married 18 months, together 6 years beforehand. Two kids, haven't had sex since our youngest was conceived and they are now 9 months old. I'm only 28 and my friends are all so loved up still and I feel like all of that is part of my past but I have so much life ahead. I don't think I've found the passionate love of my life that I wanted but I also don't think that's realistic sometimes anyway. I know I don't want to complete mess up my kids lives. But I'm very aware this isn't normal.

Talk with him OP...thats only way youll know whats happening

He doesn't really see it as an issue.

My exh was like this. Has he always been like this? Mine was only tactile in the dating stage. That really changed when we married although we would still have sex albeit less regularly. When our child was born, it virtually stopped and completely messed with my head. I was 30 when we split. You can’t put up with this at your age for the next 40 odd years. It never gets better.

You need to tell him it IS an issue for you. That’s just not right, especially when you are so young.

lack of sex is one thing, lack of intimacy just kills a relationship and you become, as you say and no doubt know, just room mates.

You have been married 18 months.
Your youngest is 9 months.
And you've not had sex since the child was conceived.

So you've not had sex even once during your entire marriage?!!

And he doesn't see it as an issue - WTF ????

What else is going on?