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DH takes random photos of me

37 replies

Lialii · 05/10/2023 15:55

I discovered today that in the last few months my DH has been taking photos of me without my knowledge. We share our Google Photos with each other, but I don't often look at his unless I'm looking for some particular picture.

Not pervy ones when you search for this topic online you'll find lots of DHs who secretly take half naked photos etc just me doing random things. Working on the computer, playing the piano, lying on the sofa looking at my phone, etc. One was of me sleeping, that's maybe a little creepy (but fully dressed etc).

I should add that I'm currently very pregnant, and often don't want to pose for photos as I just feel huge and bla.

I don't know how I feel about the photos, I'm a bit weirded out. Is it weird? Is it cute? Maybe he wants to document the pregnancy, but knows that I wouldn't pose for a photo if he asked? He didn't do this with my first pregnancy though.

OP posts:

Frith2013 · 05/10/2023 18:17

I'd hate that.

nonmerci99 · 05/10/2023 19:27

You're not being unreasonable @Lialii. It really pisses me off and I think I would just carry a camera with me and just take pictures of him wherever he is, take pictures of him on the shitter, in the shower, half naked, the most unflattering pics possible, and put them on social media.

Well, that took a turn.

MidnightOnceMore · 05/10/2023 19:48

I don't think it's 'lovely' if you don't want to be photographed. You can ask him to stop if you want to, he should respect it.

PronounsBaby · 05/10/2023 20:48

It depends if you like it.

My partner never does. I had to ask him to take some photos of me when I was pregnant and he took two very unflattering ones and that's it. It makes me sad I only have two pictures of my one and probably only pregnancy.

I would be flattered and felt like he was thinking of me if my partner did that, but you may not like it.

Alopeciabop · 05/10/2023 21:02

FadeAwayAndRadiate · 05/10/2023 16:06

My husband does this occasionally and I fucking HATE it. Sometimes on day trips he takes pictures of me from a bit of a distance.... Bending over, stooping, pictures from side etc. Horribly unflattering. I'm three or four stone overweight, so they're fucking grim.

He knows I absolutely hate having photographs taken when I'm not posing for them, I think it's intrusive, and I think someone taking photos of you - when you don't know they are being taken, is rude ... Especially WHEN YOU HAVE SPECIFICALLY TOLD THEM NOT TO DO IT! I think it's borderline controlling and manipulative .. .... And I absolutely fucking hate it. DH rarely does it, but he does do it occasionally, and it pisses me off. I don't do it to him!

I can't believe anybody is okay with people, (even their own husband,) taking random pictures of them when they're not ready for it/don't know they're being taken. When they've got no makeup on, and no hair done, and the pics are unflattering angles, like taken sideways on (which is a very unflattering pose for anyone.)

You're not being unreasonable @Lialii . It really pisses me off and I think I would just carry a camera with me and just take pictures of him wherever he is, take pictures of him on the shitter, in the shower, half naked, the most unflattering pics possible, and put them on social media.

Edited

I’m just loving your passion. The put it in social media part really made me chuckle

EveryOtherNameTaken · 05/10/2023 21:11

I often take pics of my DP when he's unaware. Sometimes he just looks so lovely I want to capture it.

piscofrisco · 06/10/2023 05:56

I think he's trying g to do a nice thing. You might be glad of it later on though I appreciate it feels annoying now. My exh used to take no pictures of me at all. Consequently I think I've got one picture of me when I was pregnant with my first, none of the second, as barely any of me with them they were babies. Selfies were becoming a thing when they began to be toddlers so from then on a few more of them and I but they aren't great as the girls were too little to Co operate. It would have been nice to look back and have some pictures of that time.

StarlightLady · 06/10/2023 06:17

It wouldn’t bother me at all.

Loubelle70 · 06/10/2023 06:22

muddyford · 05/10/2023 16:14

I took some of my mother concentrating on making a cake, peeling potatoes, leaning against a kitchen unit drinking a mug of coffee. All lovely, unposed reminders.

That's sweet

Ladyj84 · 06/10/2023 06:29

I couldn't care less, normal pictures so no problem

Geneve82 · 26/11/2023 17:51

op - how are things now with your dh?

Durhamrose · 13/04/2024 19:36

He obviously thinks you are fabulous. What a compliment.

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