Website data

[Lovesucks]

Does anyone know anything about this? So my partner has an android and curiosity got the better of me last night. Through past experiences with him I trained myself to be able to look at his website data even though things have been deleted. I saw POF and the data used was 95kb is that a lot? I asked him about it and he said yeah he typed it in one day cos I was pissing him off (we’re going through a bad patch well was) he swears blind he hasn’t done anything on there just typed it in. But when I type it in on my phone it says the data used was 210 mbs. Does anyone have any advice? Would you believe him that he literally just typed it in and stayed in it for a bit?

That's alot of data used. He's been searching on there and creating a profile.

I don’t know much about data etc but that doesn’t sound like he just had a brief look. Have you tried searching for him? Before he knew you knew?

to be fair though I’d be furious if a partner went onto my tablet and started looking at deleted data. That’s not normal behaviour in my opinion, though I know plenty of people on here seem to do it

95kb is a tiny amount of data

Though quite honestly if you're doing bizarre things like looking at his data usage I'd say you've got far bigger relatiinship problems than him logging into POF

@Lovesucks you've been checking up on him ?
I'd run a mile if I were him. Even if he has something to hide you have gone to a low level to find evidence. If you're so sure he's been up to no good why are you still with him?

Yes I know but I have reasons. He cheated on me and if I didn’t look through his phone this way I’d never if found out my kids have s baby sibling. Yes I forgave him but my spidery senses were tingling.

so is it a small amount of data or not because im getting told conflicted things ☹️

There's so much that goes into data stuff and conversions.

Just assume he is lying since he clearly has before.

It's next to nothing, have you misread it?

95k is tiny, you can get that by bring routed through to a website from a pop up

This isn’t really the issue though, you don’t trust him, and never will. You have a lifetime of checking phones, websites, and chats. If someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat regardless of what’s on thier phone (and why has nobody ever heard of Private Browsing in this situation).

You haven't forgiven him. You are still mistrustful (probably with good reason) and on hyper alert.

Whatever arguments DP and I have neither of us have hopped on a dating app because we're pissed off with the other one.

This is one unhealthy union. Checking hasn’t stopped him cheating or trying to cheat, your actions are not preventative. Your monitoring activities aren’t even providing you with a false sense of security if your querying website data usage.

You don’t trust him, for good reason and those reasons are not in the past considering his recent POF activity, even if fleeting.

Stay in the relationship if you must but you’ll never trust him because he can’t be trusted.

95k is tiny, at most he's logged in but he's not had conversations at that

But checking up on him? What's the point being together. He cheated, you forgave him, you can't spend the next 30 years checking up on him, you'll drive yourself bonkers and make yourself miserable let alone him. Stop doing it or walk away

His reaction to being pissed off with you was to type a dating site into his phone? That's enough to end the relationship especially with serious cheating history, fathering a child with someone else and your lack of trust of him (that's understandable). This isn't a good relationship.

It’s a toxic relationship. The fact that he looks for someone else as soon as you have an argument is just the tip of the iceberg.

There are 1000 kb in 1 mb.
He used 95 kb.
You used 210 mb.

I'd say he didn't do anything. Snooping is shitty behaviour, so is cheating, this relationship is dead.

As the above poster stated, 1000kb is 1mb. He's used a tiny amount, u didn't.

You're relationship is dead and you are now being controlling, whether justified or not.

If you decide to forgive someone, you cannot keep bringing it up. It's not fair or healthy to any of you.

Concentrate on Co parenting and split

Rigbt this is what it says. He sent this to me. Yes I know I’m insane but I can’t stand not knowing I didn’t come on here to be grilled ok.

I'm not an expert but looking at your screenshot I'd say he's had a good look at Twitter and Argos, and a brief glance at the Mirror. Everything else is probably from adverts.

14kb is the size of a small banner. One single webpage would be bigger than that.
This is the result of the pof homepage (without graphics included). So, he couldn't of even loaded up a single page on the site.

It's likely a banner or graphic called from another website.

210mb is x2,200 more data than 95kb

I've probably just used more data just typing out this message.

Also, I'd be royally pissed if my OH went though my phone.

Perhaps it's time to give it up as a bad job.

You've tried to make it work between you, but you don't trust him - and why would you when :
a. he's already cheated on you before, and
b. his go-to is to sign up to a dating website if you have a row, and he thinks that's a justification you should accept.

It's no sort of life policing and checking up on someone: it's so bad for your mental health. I'm sure you don't want to be this person that feels impelled to go through his phone etc.

Call it a day with him. You'll get your peace of mind back.

95kb is nothing, a small logo, banner or text. If you look at Argos as a comparison, that is larger because the website has features that need to be loaded in order to run but also images and that's where the bulk of data comes from, images and videos.

Had he actually been on POF and browsed profiles there would have been images and the size would be substantially larger.

Further on she said he'd used 250mb

Sorry 210

No @GeekyDiva80 , she said SHE had used 210mb when SHE looked at it. She initially said he had used 95kb but then the screenshot she showed of his data said he had only used 14kb. Both of those figures are absolutely minuscule.

I think if one is having to keep tabs on someone's data usage there are far bigger problems and it's time to end it. Just my opinion OP.

I read that as she used a large amount of data testing the same thing on her phone trying to check if his explanation was reasonable