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Saw an Ex very briefly was menacing towards me

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Izzy54321 · 04/10/2023 14:57

This relationship ended over 10 years ago, it was so bad I had an injunction against him for DV he also spent time in prison for this. Today in a different town as I moved away I saw him. He came up to me and started talking about money I owed him ( no I don’t) and said I killed his mom, who died several years ago, he didn’t threaten me but was menacing and it made me quite scared. I froze at first and then told him to stay away from me and never talk to me again. Thank goodness I was in a public place and got away quite quickly. My DH who I called immediately wanted me to call the police even to log the interaction. The injunction ended 5 years ago that’s the first time I’ve ever seen him in over 10 years. I don’t know what he was doing in the town I now live. Has anyone else been through something similar? Did you get another injunction? Thank you 🙏

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 04/10/2023 15:00

That's scary. I would ask your local police station for advice.

ButterCrackers · 04/10/2023 15:04

Inform your local police about what happened. I’d say to call them now and report it. See what can be done.

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Izzy54321 · 04/10/2023 15:09

Thank you I’m going to call the non emergency number now.

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Izzy54321 · 04/10/2023 15:09

Thank you I’m going to call them now.

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Dery · 04/10/2023 15:28

Yes, call them. He’s dangerous. You may need to get another injunction but the police should be able to advise. He sounds very nasty.

Dery · 04/10/2023 15:29

Do you think he was in that town because he has been trying to track you down?

MadeForThis · 04/10/2023 15:50

Definitely speak to the police. Seeing you in person might set him off again. Does he know where you live/how to find you?

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Izzy54321 · 04/10/2023 15:55

I don’t think so I moved 20 miles away and have hidden myself from SM and I’ve even changed my name.

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Izzy54321 · 04/10/2023 15:56

I think it was a chance encounter I moved 20 miles away and changed my name, job everything about my life is different. I dropped all mutual friends and left.

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Izzy54321 · 04/10/2023 16:01

So I’ve spoken to the police, they have logged the encounter. I had 2 options 1 they track him down and warn him to stay away from me or 2 they log what happened and I also see a solicitor to start another NMO. So I chose 2 just incase I need to go back to court and get another NMO police explained he would have to approach me again for the court to order another injunction. Also stalking could be added if he approaches me again. Thank you all for your advice.

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billy1966 · 04/10/2023 16:05

Well done for being so decisive in protecting yourself and informing the police.

What an awful shock for you.

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Izzy54321 · 04/10/2023 16:53

It was horrible, I couldn’t wait to get into my car and lock the doors. The police have been helpful so fingers crossed I won’t need to call them again. Thank you 🙏

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Tonight1 · 04/10/2023 22:42

@Izzy54321 he sounds deranged - hope you never see him again

Loubelle70 · 04/10/2023 22:58

Good for you OP. If you hear from him again, ring police again. Youll need a non molestation order against him xxx

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