My boyfriends had a year of drama and chaos. He was struggling to find a home in January and up until August he's been working and staying in digs and at hotels at weekends. It's been expensive, Stressful and not alot of fun..I've stuck by him. I have loaned him money. I washed his clothes for several months at mine. I took him meals and was there to listen and help. By pure luck a man was willing to rent him a flat. So he's now had a home for 7 weeks. He's now got no work due to a work disagreement. I've once again lent him some money. He's due a tax rebate any time now. He was majorly down at the weekend so I helped him sort a tele. We cooked food and he cheered up.
Monday I went off to work..same again yesterday. Both days he was constantly texting me about his tax return and how he couldn't stop checking. I jokingly said is that how you feel waiting for my messages. He said on a serious voice I used to but I don't now no. I asked him what he meant. He said its not exciting now and we talk about "your work" and stuff. This is how he always is. I dont often talk about my work. But if someone's told me something interesting or something nice happened I might talk for a minute. But I've noticed he's always saying "I'm trying to work out why I need to know this"
On top of this we used to sleep together everytime we met up. The last 3 weeks he's shown little interest in me. I agreed to walk down to his last night. I walk 30 minutes each way whenever I see him. He never meets me now. I got there last night. At 7.40pm he was ready to go to sleep. I felt myself getting irritated because I'd been there 1 hour and 45 minutes. He spent half an hour laid on the floor with the dog and then we went through to the bedroom.i tried to express I felt a little down and felt we hadn't been having any sex lately. He said I was putting pressure on the relationship and pushing him away. Before I knew it he was telling me I always do this. I started to cry and told him I've had a draining week and I just wanted a cuddle. He continued to get mad. This is regular with him..so I walked home in the dark at 10pm. He didn't pick up the phone. Didn't text me back and it's now morning.
I'm overwhelmed with so much stuff I've seen lately. I worry now he won't return me money he's had..I dont know why he's ignored me. I feel like shit. All i tried to do was request abit of closeness. He also said he misses the phone sex we had when we first met and complained I never have time for that now. I pointed out I'm often with him now and rarely have time to myself. Plus we are real now.
I just feel hurt and confused.