Feeling lost - advice needed

[CLH23]

My relationship hasn't always been all bad, we've been together for 11 years and share an 8 year old DD. I must have attachment issues, because of all the times I should have permanently left, I ended up going back. Many times he's been caught out messaging other women on Facebook when he's drunk, then the next day it all goes back to normal. Sometimes he'll think nothing of telling me to shut up or fuck off in front of our dd even if I ask him not to talk to me like that. I just feel miserable and so unhappy... but have this completely irrational fear of the unknown. I'm 35 and so desperately want another child, but for obvious reasons I haven't with him. Do I have time to start again and have another child with someone new? Is it right that I leave permanently despite it not being all bad... I honestly have lost myself in all this and one thing I do not want to do is look back and regret not going after the life I want x

one thing I do not want to do is look back and regret not going after the life I want

My advice, therefore, is to end this relationship with the guy for good. He's a shit partner for you and your relationship is a cycle of misery, and is showing your child a turbulent and dysfunctional model for their own future. If you keep doing what you've always done, you get what you've always got.

Go after the life you want. Be brave.

You do have time in your fertility window to meet someone and have another child - some women have children into their forties. But I would leave for the sake of making a peaceful and happy life with your existing child, not just for that possibility.

Please leave. Life is too short. If not for another baby then for your peace. He is not for you and you and your dd will be just fine without him. 35
is young trust me. Go!

You need to leave and please don’t take this the wrong way but you need to be in a 100% committed long term relationship before having another child. It’s not fair on any child to be brought into the world without completely stability in my opinion. Not judging or anything just being honest in saying sort yourself and your DD out first and make sure you’re safe and happy x

If you are healthy you got plenty of time to start again. If you are fertile you got about a decade of time to have more kids.
You sound like you are both because you haven't mentioned any particular concern. It that is the case, yes, you got time, don't waste it.

Thank you for your replies. On top of all the above, whilst we get on and can laugh.. there's no 'togetherness' we aren't a team, we don't prioritise us as a couple (not that he would deserve that) and I crave everything s partner should be. Tonight for example (probably sounds ridiculous) but I needed help with something, I asked him to help me he said fucking deal with it yourself. Went into another room and shut the door to go to sleep. (All because I annoyed him apparently). I've never felt so lost and unsure of my life as I do now x