Has anyone planned a divorce years ahead?

[doubleorquitz]

I would like advice on how to play the divorce long game as I can’t end it for a few years as controversial as this may seem. I don’t want to go into details for the reasons why I want to leave my emotionally and financially abusive relationship, I just know that now the time isn’t right.

I started saving money and hiding it. Turns out I was financially better off when he left anyway!

How did you hide it? Do I need to stockpile cash?

Don't you have to declare it anyway when you get divorced?

I didn't plan for a long time but it did take a year of trying to get things lined up.

Do any small jobs around the house. It might not add value but it will add saleability so you can move quicker.
Keep the woodwork looking good. New owners don't care about wallpaper or paint colour but chipped woodwork is off-putting.
Make sure the garden is kept reasonable.

Keep an eye on and copies of pension letters, investments etc.
Start saving money. You will need to pay for solicitors, estate agents, conveyancing, removal vans etc. If you will be renting then get enough for 3 months rent and deposit.
Anything more and you will have to share it with him but the above are reasonable costs.

Good luck.

And yet when people on here suspect men are doing this, everyone is out to lynch them 😅

that or another bank account

thats also true

Men are rarely in a position where they gave up their careers to look after children and are financially dependent on their wifes who can turn up to be controlling etc. Context is everything.
It's often impossible to leave unless you have money to do so.